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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating steadily for over 5 months now. She's already told me she wants to lose her virginity to me, but I'm not sure how to start...I want to make her first time as amazing as possible, but I've heard that a girl's first time usually hurts... Is there any way I can keep that from happening, or at least make it hurt less? I've heard that building up to the act and going slow will help, but is there anything else that would also help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): When i lost mine, it didnt hurt as much as i thought but i think thats due to the fact that my partner had fingured me before and alot on that night.
relax her, let her feel the trust between you two.
be romantic,take it slow, maybe use lubee but this be careful cause some girls are very delicate to lube. just kiss her loads make her feel special and take it slow.
ive heard from alot of my friends on there first time it was much better slow then fast but the deeper you get it hurts more but not for to long, i personally found slow better.
good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): My bf took mine perfectly. He built me up for ages so I was very wet [by fingering and licking me], then we just looked into each others eyes for ages and I kinda gave the go ahead, and he asked if I was sure and I said yes. He really slowly put it in, and it hurt, but was not agony. I asked him to stop but not pull out, just to remain still. He did so and the pain finally eased and I could have sex with him. He was gentle and slow and kept asking if I was ok. It didn't go on for too too long, which you might wanna make sure you don't do either, cos she may get sore. I bled a bit afterwards, but that's nothing to worry about. You sound really caring, it's refreshing. Good luck ! xxx
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 My first time at most BARELY hurt.
You need two things, lube, and foreplay. The guy I lost it to spent a lot of time fingering me, which I believe helped, and two, I was really well lubricated.
You also need to make her relax, if she tenses up it'll hurt more.
Lube is the key though, even if she's well lubricated, having a bottle on handle would help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Have lubrication ready and engage in foreplay for a long period of time. When you can tell she is very turned on, that is the best time to do it, because she is naturally lubricated and in the "mood"....ease slowly through it and reassure her and ask her if she's okay at every inch...the pain is different for most people.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 November 2010):
 It does hurt, for some it's a small pain..mine on the other hand was agonizing. But every girl is different. I would go all out and make it as romantic as possible. I'm talking rose petals scattered on fresh sheets and on the floor, a candlelit room..the whole nine yards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): All you can really do is try to be as gentle as possible, that's it really, don't plan it either just go with the flow and ask her if she is hurting, sorry I couldn't be more help
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