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writes: i am 17 years old, i am not sexually active yet, however my boyfriend has invited me round to his next weekend...and i think he is planning for things to happen which i want but im worried! i dont know wat im doing! Will it hurt getting fingered etc...? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006): if you're not really sure about your upcoming weekend with the boyfriend, and are worried, you might need to really think about how you feel with the whole situation. you might not be ready! i personally think there is a difference between wanting something and being ready for something. i wanted my boyfriend for a longggg time before i finally let him know i was ready to go further than just the kissing and touching.
as for things hurting, if your boyfriend is experienced and you trust him, just relax and let him introduce you to your body. if you both are a bit inexperienced, you might need to help him a bit which can sometimes be embarassing, but as long as you are completely comfortable with him things should end up fine. i hope that helped a little, and that you are happy with whatever does happen between you two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006): Hi Just make sure you are comfy first just relax and let it happen natrelly and tell him if you want to wait for sex dont be pushed into doing anything your not Ready for if hes a desent guy he'll understand! Ditzy Blonde :)x
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
If your sure too that your ready then you need to relax,it won't hurt, you just need to be sure your ready and try not to think of anything hurting,things will come naturally if he does anything you dont feel comfortable with..just tell him to stop until your ready for him to go further..it would help if your in a relaxed atmasphere..with no interuptions so your not tense,just take one step at a time and do not let him pressure you into anything your not comfortable with or don't want to do..
xLEAHx
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reader, candyshopp +, writes (22 October 2006):
 well dont do anything that you dont want to do, and if he trys to push that, its not worth letting him. make him earn doing stuff with u, make sure that ur comferible with everything that your bf wants to do!
getting fingered kinda hurts, depends on how big bf's fingers are, and how big the tampon u use is. if ur bf has small fingers it shouldent hurt, maybe just a tad bit, if ur bf has big fingers...well then it will probably hurt a little (not that bad though, just depends)
if u dont use tampons then it will hurt alot more, but if u do, u should be used to having something being stuck up there.
but again dont do anthing that you dont want to do, or not sure about. if he respects you, he will be patient and wait!
hope that helps!
xo Candyshopp
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reader, beanybikes +, writes (22 October 2006):
there is nothing to worry about. i really think you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and if he really wants to be with you he will understand. its okay to be scared but don't feel you have to do anything you don't want to . you have the right to say no. dont be pressured into doing anything either. how long have you been together. do you really feel its the right time to take things further. if this is what you really want just relax and it will be okay.
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