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writes: Me and my bf have been together for a year now. We have got a 9 year age gap between us. He isn't the guy I usually go for, I like guys who are my age, tall dark and handsome... well my bf has got a good heart but he is as tall as me, a whole lot older and, well like I said, not usually what I go for. He is a good guy and we have a lot of fun together, he and his friends (now my friends as well) go to places all the time and have the time of out life. In bed, well there are a few things we should work on but not a big issue I think. Now I learned to love him and he'll do anything for me but in the beginning from my side I when I met him I didn't have that "wow" factor. Like I didn't fall head over heals. Every now and then when I see a guy my age and my type, I wonder if I'm not making a mistake. Not having this wow in the beginning, will this be a problem, not having love at first sight? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Relationships are certainly about more than just sex, but sex is the central issue. We wouldn't pair off into opposite gender couples if sex didn't exist. So with that in mind, are you sleeping with the kind of guy you really WANT to sleep with, or just the kind of guy you think you can CONVINCE to sleep with you? Life is short. If you answer isn't the first one, you need to get your life in order and make any and all changes required to be with the kind of man you really want to sleep with before your time runs out. Don't settle for pumpkin pie if you want cherry cobbler. You don't get many chances to order dessert.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell like I said he and our friends are all I have. I don't want to loose that just over looks. But every now and then I get depressed and I cant tell him why, I just need to jump over his appearance and having a hard time.
Thanks anyway
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Don't marry this guy. There is no reason that you need to settle, and no reason he needs to marry someone that settle for him. The day you marry should be the happiest day of your life, others will replace that day like the birth of a child, but for the most part it should be your happiest. Marry someone you would like to spend the rest of your days with. If you are having seconds thought now, you need to reevaluate the relationship before you have kids and the break away point becomes complicated.Good luck!Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx prion. Your words are maybe just what I needed :)
Sometimes I can help myself to look at guys I fall for usually and to kinda "dream" about them, the passion, the lust like you say. Tell me is this normal and how can I stop myself from doing this. (I'll never cheat though)
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