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*onfused1985
writes:I don't know what to do anymore, no one wants me, when it comes to age I'm either too old or too young and when it comes to my personality I'm too kind or too nice or too caring, when it comes to sex I'm not experianced or not confident enough :(I starting to feel life isn't worth living anymoreWhat do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Someone wants you. Actually, there are lots of people who would want you - you just haven't found them yet.
You are a young man with many great years ahead of you. Don't try to rush into something you might regret later. You WILL find a woman who loves you just the way you are. She will love the young, caring, nice, sweet guy you are. It will seem surreal when you find her because you'll think you're dreaming the whole thing!
You don't need sexual experience to be confident. You have many qualities by which to be confident. You need to exploit THOSE qualities which make you great. Believe me, being a nice guy IS a good thing! It may not seem like it now, but there are women out there dying to meet a man like you. And when you do find a woman, the sexual experience will come.
I'm guessing by your tone that you haven't had many sexual partners and therefore you haven't had many chances at gaining experience. Don't beat yourself up over something you can't control right now. We have ALL been unexperienced (some of us are still unexperienced) when it comes to sex. Some women like dominant men - they like men who "take control" - the "alpha" male. When you show general confidence (not just sexually) you show that you are willing and able to take control and handle the situation. That same confidence can then be applied in the bedroom - show confidence that you can give her pleasure and you WILL. Take control - be the alpha male. But continue to be the caring and nice guy. Don't ever lose sight of who you are. You are great right now with or without a mate to validate that. But when you find her, she will validate you over, and over, and over again. And you'll wonder how you ever thought about not living. :)
Smile dude. You're awesome just as you are.
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