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writes:Hiya, I'm in a relationship at the moment which is coming up to two months. We've been PERFECT with each other up till now when the other week my partner's grandmother passed away and she had to go away to the funeral and she was gone for about a good 3 weeks.While she was away she kept pushing me away because she's a little insecure but I was there for her and no matter how harsh she was being to me I kept sending her loving messages to let her know that I am still there for her and still love her.When she came back things we're weird and we had a huge talk and we just both felt weird about things because we just didn't click. However, we've always been AMAZING with communication and we managed to get through it all which is amazing. We found out that the problem was we expected and assumed we'd click immediately cause we missed each other so much but we forgot that her grandma passed away and there were problems with her dad (yes she sorta forgot about her feelings with family for some reason). So in the end we realised that she's just upset still which is why we couldn't be all passionate and stuff yet for the time being.After all this was sorted, the next day I realised that I have no like desire and passion towards her. I want to talk to her and I want things to be perfect because she's going through a rough time at the moment and ultimately I DO want her, I love her very much. But when I'm sweet to her it just feels like I'm trying to hard. Basically I feel unmotivated and have no desire and passion for her but still DO want her.The last thing I want is to lose her cause I do want her but I don't get how when I have none of this lust for her.Could someone PLEASE help me with what's going on? Do I need space? Do we need a good day cuddling and what not in bed together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): That was really helpful thanks :)
Yeah I guess it sorta links on to how "we expected to feel like it" in your terms. If that makes sense?
But yes I get it now, that was great thanks :)
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