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writes:My boyfriend of 2 yrs is in the army and has really bad nightmares about what he saw when he was fighting in timo, they're so bad he starts shaking in his sleep and yelling. I don't know what to do when they happen or what to say when he wakes up. Its been a yr since he was in timo and im starting to really worry as he goes to afghanistan in a few months and im dreading the sleepless nights when he gets back. Should I suggest he speaks to someone about what he's seen? And what should I do when he wakes up from his nightmares? Reply to this Question
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reader, sofielew +, writes (9 July 2010):
sofielew is verified as being by the original poster of the question Things have gotten better he's agreed he needs 2 see some1. On a thursday I normally stay at my boyfriends place however, at 10pm last night he said "come on lets get u home" I was horrified and reminded him it was thursday he just looked at me and said "baby I think its best u don't stay here anymore its bad enough my dreams keep me awake without them keeping u awake too" I filled up infront of him and he just walked away. He drove me home and I went straight 2 my room and cryed, he called me when he got home he was choked up and said that he was sorry and that our bed was empty with out me. He called me this morning and told me he was going to see some1 about his nightmares he also asked me to move in with him as he can't stand my side of the bed being empty. Im so proud of my baby for admiting there is a problem and im looking forward to snuggling in our bed tonight b4 he leaves 4 training on monday as well as moving in with him when he gets home from trainin in 2 weeks. Thanks for ur help and giving me the courage to talk 2 him about the nightmares.
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reader, sofielew +, writes (8 July 2010):
sofielew is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI spoke 2 my boy about the nightmares and he told me they're nothing 2 worry about and that he can handle them, I told him that I couldn't any more and that staying at his house was becoming a nightmare of sleepless nights. I try to tell him he needs to speak 2 some1 he needs to get them sorted and we just end up in arguments me normally in tears and him feeling guilty. He loves his job and I love him just hate knowing that my babys dreams are hurting him
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): Definitely, yes!!! It sounds like he is suffering from PTSD.
Please don't delay. One thing you can do is contact his unit chaplain.
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