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writes: My girlfriend has just dropped a bombshell, that she thinks we should split up. We were due to be married next year, I don't understand she has been pushing to get married talking about kids now she says she loves me but has 'issues' she needs to sort out in her head that are clouding her feelings for me. I don't understand. I tried leaving after she told me, but she wouldn't let me go. I feel confused and hurt. I don't know whether I'm coming or going and don't know which way to turn. I can't turn to my family in case we have a reconciliation and my family would end up resenting her!! What should I do? I love her to bits and would do anything for her. Should I walk away to save both her feelings and my own?
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (11 April 2005):
 Hi there.Breaking up with someone you love is the hardest thing in the world to do. Maybe you she trying to protect you from something. Until you know what these "issues" are you cannot move on. Try sitting talking to her and asking her why she feels you do not have a future together. Ask her why it is she feels the two of you cannot carry on. Maybe there is something that she is afriad of telling you, for the fear of hurting you, and instead of fronting up to that she feels its easier to walk away. At the same time it sounds that she doesnt really want to walk away. you really do need to know what these Issues are, until then you cannot decide to whether to fight for the future of youre relationship or move on. Insist that she tell you, no matter what the problem is. No matter what it is at least then you will know and be able to decide what to do for the best. It does sound as though she is reluctant to let you close to this issue, try and calmly sit together and take it one step at a time. As far as calling it a day and moving on... only you can know the answer to that one.Good luckTake CareX x
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