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writes: Dear readers, i really need help on this one. I met this guy on the net, real fairytail story, anyway we were kind of friendly for the first 2 weeks; discussing different topics but still anonymously like "you've got mail" type of thing. After that we used the microphone, and it was chemistry at the first letter spoken, the problem is I gave him the wrong name and the wrong identity at first but things got really hectic for both of us and we got tons of problems with our lives, we help each other, we talk every single day, for hours, now we are so involved but because it's been months i feel really guilty and i don't find the courage to tell him the truth about my name and family and all of that coz i fear that he would feel betrayed. I feel really bad coz i got to talk to his family (brothers and mom) and they all thank me for being supportive and nice with him through everything (especially that he had plenty of bad experiences with girls, friends, and even family). Please tell me what i'm supposed to do, i'm really lost, i've never loved someone in my entire life as i love him, and he has the same feelings and it shows coz he waits hours till i get connected, we've been through a lot of things, surgeries, post breakup sickness, also good stuff like his graduation. Please tell me what i should do? and how can i approach him after 6 months? i really need help and thank you already. Reply to this Question
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reader, Will1000 +, writes (20 August 2006):
 First, are you going to or have you actually met him?
If so definetely tell him but assumingyou haven't I would suggest teling him, if he loves you just say something like your mom tells you to do that so that you are safe, but don't keep lying it sounds as though you have a real connection so don't keep lying
Hope I helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): Well you either need to tell him the truth or keep up the lie indefinately.
Assuming you haven't even met - I wouldn't be so sure that a proper relationship is even on the table; a lot of people often get on like soul mates over the internet, but in real life there is no "spark" at all.
How do you approach him? Perhaps an email. Just say what you did, and why you did it. I think he would understand, you didn't do it to hurt him, nor is it exactly that important - unless you have lied about other things too. I've read terrible lies and deceit on here, people keeping children, wifes, husbands, affairs all from someone they supposidely love. Your case seems to be different. Good luck.
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