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writes:Hi everyone.Its been three months since my girlfriend of over 2 years split up with me. Things were very very tough at first but did get easier. We live in the same samll town so very difficult to avoid each ohter. However things have just got much harder for me. I'm suddenly really really jealous. I can't get out of my head that she could meet someone else anytime. When photos are out online of her with guys who she's known for ages, i'm now feeling really jealous, and wondering whether anything is happening between them.Me and my ex are still in sporadic contact and I have found myself sending her texts to literaaly ask her if she's met anyone and i know this isn't any good. She's replied saying no and i believe her, i think but then the next time i want to ask again.Is this normal? What can I do? Will it get better?Other people have said that when i start dating again it will get easier but to be honest i really dont want to at the moment.Please help me sort my head out.Thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): hey there!
i've been there before and LOTS of my friends have been there before. What i did, and what i tell my friends, is very simple, but it requires alot Self-Discipline.
you need to explain to your ex, that you need to cut off contact from her until you are back on track. Then cut her off from your facebook, myspace, phone, whatever. doing this both keeps you from thinking of her, whenever u see a picture, and it keeps you from texting her.
The first days or even weeks are going to be very hard on you, but slowly you will stop thinking about her, and new things, hobbies, projects, even boys/girs will step into your lifeTry to stay active, go running, go do watch a movie with a friend, leave the house and get some nice lunch and dinner and have some fun with your friends/girlfriends. you shouldn't go around thinking about things that u cant change. And suddenly - out of the blue, your over her.
remember - its not the end of the world that she is gone, and the ocean is filled with fish! ;)
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