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anonymous
writes:My true love and i have were each others first loves. it's been over 20ish years now, and we spent 4 years together. I had left him years ago and we have recently in the past two years reunited. He's not maried but did have one child in the past with another female. He loves his daughter more than life and he has never loved another woman since me and I havent ever loved truly another man since i left him all those years ago.. We love and have the most beautiful and depest love now, it's more than i could have ever have dreamt of. Its a bonded and deep wonderful love. We're both in our ealry 40's and he tells me he doesnt want any more children. I listened and inside I felt kind of sad, because we lost our child years ago when we were very young. I have the feelings and would love a child with him. I didn't come out and tell him this, only because he beat me to the first punch in setting his desire not to have more and so i decided to keep the fact I wanted one with him a secret.My question and comment is this: he only mentioned not wanting more children once... since then we have had sexual relations and we dont use protection because we're exclusive and together in a relationship but it seems by his actions when we have relations he doesn't seem to worry that we don't use protection.I decided once to see his reaction when I said yes, I agree, I dont want more kids either and told him why. The look on his face spoke volumes to me. He looked as though he'd been struck by a car - surpised and a big hurtful look in his face, to be honest I didn't comment on what I saw but noticed his reaction as when we make love he's always wanting to finish inside me and as much as he can and he's always wanting me to take and suggests certain vitamins for my health, he states. The vitamins he takes are to keep him healthy and have a better fertility rate.Another thing... He for the longest time every time we make plans to go away together asks me every month when my cycle started and ended so he claims we wouldn't run into that beng an issue. At first I thought nothing of it, it sounded on the up and up but as the year went on and then this second year I'm thinking after all this time why does he need to ask every single month when I'm having my period? hmmm then it hit me and a flash went off in my head but I'm not sure if it's just combined with all I just told you here in this letter or if it's purely coincidence or if he was in fact trackng my ovulating time?? hmmm Another strange thing that came to mind... every single time we had weekdend getaways, they always ALWAYS fell on the perfect time window, the best time of my fertility. So my question is this... Could he be secretly wanting me to get pregnant and if so, why wouldn't he just come right out and say it or ask or be honest with me. There are an awful lot of clues to me that seem way too many to be chalked up. Am I seeing things that aren't there? What do you think? I'd love your opinion please. THANK YOU. ..TRUELOVER69
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): If i were in your postion i would be coming to the same conclusion myself. please dont take offence but if you think he wants a baby and you genuinly want one you need to talk about it as both being in your 40's it may become harder to concieve. So if you need help you will be able to get it sooner rather than later. Dont accuse him of trying to get you pregnant just ask him wether or not he would reconcider it? With you being in a commited relationship this shouldnt be a difficult convo to have.
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