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writes:I have been with my wife for a total of 5 years and until recently, our sex life was pretty decent, but as of late, she has stated that she does not get anything out of it. I have done some research and understand what she means, but she is unwilling to try some different, more creative things, including me going down on her, which on many occasions, she tells me that she would like to use my face as a seat. I am willing to do whatever it takes to please her, but she doesn't want to budge, any tips?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Remind your wife that a bad sex life is why many people get divorced or go and seek out other sex partners. She got the wedding ring, and part of her duty/responsibility is trying to work with you to make your marriage happy and successful.... "I aint interested, and I aint trying" doesn't cut it.. just leads a man to say "my wife doesn't understand me"...
A romantic affair with her husband.. that should do the trick, but it's not a quick fix solution, it's about you and her sitting down and working out if you want to end up in separate rooms or you want to be the embarrassing newlyweds for life. It's about you both promising to put each other first and to above all have fun.
You need to up the romance, and it's more than flowers... it's giving her a kiss at breakfast, helping her with the dishes in your boxer shorts... (or no underwear under trousers if you got kids in the house) It's about reminding her that you both aint dead yet and you got a lot of life. Grab one of them women novels (mills and boon) they usually got tons of storylines that women like. Make a fool of yourself in the bedroom... go out and get yourself a fireman's suit (some women like that) and take it off so she can watch. Romance and sexing is hard, you can't just say "baby I want oral sex", you got to get her juices going and you got to get her thinking about sex again. Not all woman like oral sex done on them, so you got to get even more creative, she said no to that one already, so think of something else.
Couples should try and make regular appointments to go out dating and act like a couple of teenagers in love. Sex shouldn't just be in the bedroom, it should be in a look, a pat on the ass, a foot massage in front of the TV. It's not just for Christmas, but this should be how your life should be.
Go and talk to her, tell her you love her, you want her, but your willing to wait and just start necking, making out and dating again until she becomes ready.
When things are better, then check out, http://www.sexinfo101.com/ Tons of stuff in there to have fun with.. every week you choose something (if she's agreeable), next week it's her turn and she gets to choose (if your agreeable)
Again, sex is more than jumping her bones... an orgasm can come from a kiss or even by holding hands. Make your life with her the dream, and unless she's sick, tired, stressed out or not in love, she should come round to your way of thinking.
Does it work.. hell yes.. we told one guy to go wild and seduce his wife with crazy sex.. but in the end it was the foot massages and the "hello darling" hot kisses that did it for him.
Good luck, and relax and have fun.
PS: Yep, read some romance novels (or erotic novels).. try thinking about not only what you say, but how you say it.. like when you was a teenager and was desperately trying to look older, cool and impress.
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