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writes:Okay my wife says i play my game too much that we don't have time for each other anymore. Okay i work all night pretty much i work 4 Nights a week and then on Sunday i go to work and open. We have a 15mth old daughter together so those two days that i am off i try and give my wife a break from our daughter cause she has her all week. So on those two days i get of i play my game am i doing something wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): no I don't think you're doing anything wrong. You work hard to support your family, therefore on your days off you need to get a mental break to unwind so you can then go back to work all over again to support your family.
who says that once you are married and have kids, that now you are only allowed to spend your free time with the family and you get no time to yourself anymore? that's not mentally healthy it will lead to burn out.
You deserve to have time alone to unwind, and if for you that means playing games then I think there's nothing wrong with it. Your wife should be thankful that this is all you're doing - rather than going out to the bars with the guys after work to unwind.
She needs to realize that you need alone time as well, even though you are married to her and you have a kid. Maybe she needs to find her own way to unwind on her own as well when you have your daughter and she has a break.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): Get Mortal Combat, and let her beat the crap out of you. Let her win until she gets to like it. Game addiction is sometimes a fun addiction. One or two hours a week, sounds fine. I love video games, I introduced them to my BF who was always trying to stop his sons from playing them. Now he wants to buy more. So next up WWE and NHL. whoo hooo.And when I'm mad at him or visa versa I just hand him a controller and jump around and swear alot and than make dinner. Let the games begin..
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 January 2012):
 Sit her down and talk about it, figure out how many hours of playing you can agree on and PLEASE take some time and bond with your child without trying to play your game too, take her to the park, the pool, the back yard and give your wife some breaks from the tedium of taking care of the child by herself all the time.
I hear it so often, where men think their online games should be their first priority when they aren't working but you know what? YOUR family should come first. Of course EVERYONE deserves to have a hobby and have fun doing stuff, but you two are equals in making the child, you need to be equals in raising the child too and equals in getting some ME-time or family time that doesn't revolve around your gaming.
Come on, have a little common sense? You started dating, then go married and now you have a family.. what would common sense dictate? Family gaming? = BINGO!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 January 2012):
 You work 4 nights. Then 3 days off the week you are off. You just open on Sunday and then rest of Sunday is off.
You play games on your day off, and you say you "try" to give your wife a break from your daughter as well. How? Can you play games AND take care of your daughter at the same time? I don't think so. Maybe your wife is right and you should step it up if you want to keep your family. These things can soon lead to bitterness if you aren't doing your half of the child care.
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reader, HelpDeeDee  +, writes (29 January 2012):
In a relationship there has to be balance. You enjoy playing games and she wants your attention. Is there a game out there that both of you could enjoy together? If you cant find one for the both of you then you should put the controls down and chill with your wife for a while. Her needs are way more important then a game don't ya think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2012): you're a man.not a boy.are games more important to you than spending time with your wife and kid?at this rate she would be left feeling lonely and companionless.i'm sorry,i know you have loads of work.but when you do get time why do you always go off to "play games"?'you could take them out or spend quite time with them or involve your kid in a game once in a while ??alternate weekends?oh come on ,your 15 month old daughter will grow up one day and have no memories with you .once she's 15 yrs she'l ignore you..you won't get this time of life again.even your wife will grow out of many fun things she wants to do now..!
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reader, N91  +, writes (29 January 2012):
 Well yeah, you're either working all night, so you're going to be sleeping during the day. Your wife is always busy with your child and when you do actually have some time to spend with her you decide to play your games instead.
So basically, you haven't mentioned in your post when you actually do spend time with her...
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