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writes:My wife has become generally angry and I have no idea how to manage it. To me it's irrational, but it might make sense to someone out there in the ether who can offer some advice. As background, we live comfortably, have two young kids who are doing well both in school and with friends and our finances are stable. I have chalked it up to moodiness but the frequency and volatility are increasing and last night she told me that she was jealous of the relationship I have with our 2 sons. The reason I post this is that my wife told me last night that she is jealous of the bond I have with our 2 sons. This came up in justifying yelling at me last night for saying that I'd make dinner last night so she didn't have to. To pose historical examples, the 'rational' examples where I have gotten yelled at are leaving dirty dishes in the sink and not putting dirty clothes in the hamper. The 'irrational' examples are getting yelled at for sending flowers out of the blue, and complimenting her and thanking her for making dinner. If the jealously is really the reason, does anyone have any advice as to how to address it or if there is another thread in my description that I'm not able to see? (Venus / Mars thing).
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): " . . . my wife told me last night that she is jealous of the bond I have with our 2 sons."
If your children's mother is "jealous" of her children's healthy loving relationship with their father, she's got deep-seated issues. She needs to see a mental health professional, and if she refuses YOU need to contact a mental health professional NOW for your sons' sake. She is toxic to them, you must protect them before she damages them any further.
Was your wife's father a presence in her life when she was growing up? If so, what do you know about your wife's relationship with her father?
I suspect the answer(s) will give you the understanding you need to help your sons and her, in that order.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): the sure fire way to address your concerns, raise them with a family doctor and see if they can call her in for the 'yearly' examine that every adult should be doing to prevent health concerns/issues.
Seek couples counselling.
she could be going through a chemical change/suffering a chemical imbalance of the brain or have a disorder that is getting out of hand.
so either route will get to the bottom of it all ASAP.
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