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male
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30-35,
*irdman21
writes:At 17, I despise where I live, I despise who I live with, and most of all I can't wait to get the hell out of here. I have the life outlook of a cynical man of 70, and I'm not even allowed to have a legal drink. After 17 years of putting up with my intensely racist father and ignorant and incessantly nagging mother, I've worked myself to the point where my future is in my hands. I've been accepted to one of the top twelve unis in the country, have a great number of friends from my school, sports teams, and job, and have a strong relationship with my girlfriend of 6 months which is solid all around considering its high school.The only problem is, my parents, perhaps as a coping mechanism for realizing that their favorite punching bag is a mere 6 months from freedom, have made it a point to make my life a living hell. They constantly assault me verbally for small things, A-'s or B+'s on tests, lateness to class, missing curfew by a few minutes, things they would complain about, but never freak about before. My father's resentment for me grows by the day, he thinks I’m a liberal coward for not echoing his bigoted racism or closed minded worldview. My mother hates me even more, after locating my stash of condoms and lube. This offended her very strong religious sensibilities, which I don't agree with for my own philosophical reasons.They have all but disowned me. Had I not paid for the computer I'm currently typing on, I'd have no means of communication with anyone. They even transferred all my money (earned from MY job of 20-25 hours a week) to a bank where they claim I have to be 18 to access it. They won't co-sign for my student loans, (which I need in the first place because they withdrew the financial support they promised if I somehow got accepted to this college I made it into).I'm not being punished for anything, they said that as a result of my "behavior" they're cutting me off and forcing me to fend for myself. I don't see what the fuck I've done wrong. I've literally lived my life up to this point just to make them happy. I'm not just on here waving my dick around, I'm trying to make a point, so please do not allege that I'm self centered.I'm top 15 in my class, captain of one varsity sports team and one EC Club, I'm a close friend of people of literally all the high school cliques, I have a steady job, a good relationship with a girl, have never received any legal citation of any kind, not even a traffic ticket. Yet my parents still find fault with me.I ascribe all of this up to them simply not being able to let go, simply being unable to handle that I'm nearly an adult, but how do I go about approaching them about this without getting myself severely beaten or thrown out (my dad's temper is unreal, I've never been messed up badly because I can run or hold my own) (my mom or dad will not hesitate to toss me out on my ass).If you view this as a bad situation (which I'm sure it looks like to you) who do I talk to this late in life to get help?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 February 2011):
 You can emancipate yourself. Check it out. Where are your grandparents? Do you have any uncles/aunts?
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