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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year. At first everything was great and he was so sweet and always there for me. Now he yells all the time and tells me what I'm suppose to do and I better do it. He dont want me to talk to anyone besides him. After he does something really mean he tells me he loves me to death. I feel like I'm always on a roller coaster. When this happens I always break up with him. Dont get me wrong I love him to death and for the first time I would do anything for this man. So I need to know should I try to fix this relationship? And if so how can I make things the way they were? I really need to know before it gets anymore serious b/c it wont be just me who gets hurt I also have a 2yr old little girl! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Hi Hunny
You sound hunny as if you have done everything you can to make him happy, He lies to you well he doesnt just lie he just doesnt tell you whats going on then lies..Always asking for reasurance If you love him, But its done in a agressive and pressuring way because he knows he stands a good chance you will go..Because of the way he speaks sweetheart, I stand by what I said love think of you and your little girl, All men are not aggresive and not all men would not have presummed you had cheated only the ones that its happened to!!!!!!!!! To be treated this way PISH POSH!!!!!!You dont get any respect hunny the choice is yours at the end of the day sweetheart and I no its not easy Ive been there its soul destroying to loose yourself. If you need a chat message me hun. Read those links I sent you hunny and I hope you can find the best way out of this for your daughter and you hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for the advice. As to me cheating, I never cheated on my b/f.Sure we has normal ups and downs but never once have I sided against him or purposely hurt him. Thats just it I have always been there for him. Even thru all his test he has made me go thru. Example: He bought a company and didnt tell me but he told me that he had no money and his bills were pilling it.I offered to get a 2nd job n help him pay them. Mind you I don't get child support or any type of assistance for my daughter.Everyone knew that he bought this company but me I was the last to find out. Also, I found out he had tons of money. He acts very insecure. He is always asking me If I love him? So what? you going to break up with me? Are you sure you can spend your life with me? I used to be a outgoing person who enjoyed every aspect of life. I know you guys are thinking just leave him. Thats just it no matter what my stupid butt stands right there n takes it all. My entire life I want someone to love me for me. And do not get me wrong I am a very attractive youny lady. So its not like I'm affraid I will be spend my life alone. I just fell in love with who he used to be.
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reader, mattman +, writes (4 April 2008):
 I totally disagree with the ladies who posted to dump him. They are giving you potentially disasterous advice on a problem that we dont have all the info about.
The reason I say that is because I can see clear as day that we are missing pieces to this puzzle. Keep in mind men by nature are aggresive so there will be times when they get a little loud , as long as they NEVER threaten you or hit you its just human nature. Think about something if you will.What could YOU have done differently to make things better? Did you ever cheat on him?
That could explain his insecure nature. Do you ever try to push him until he explodes like that? Men after all are driven by testosturone and if you light the fuse expect an explosion. If you answered no to my previous questions you may be in harms way BUT if you answered yes to either you may need just as much help as he does.
Remember, life is just a series of problems its your choices that reflect the outcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): You should try to fix your relationship simply because he might be sorry he did it to you and probably wants to apologize to you.Sometimes when men holla at young women like us they do fill bad for all the the damage the have done,but does not mean that he don't wont you back.You probably need to see what with him first and then figure out your problems too,because if you don't things might get worse.It will also make things better from the way they are and then you'll can go back out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Hunny
My advice is going to be to the point and its for your own sanity and the health and well being of your child. And that is to get away from him as fast as you can, He is controlling and a bully and things will not get better they will get worse, He tells you he loves you to keep you there love, But he loves the control he has over you and he needs to be in charge. This will not benifit your little one and it will bring you futher and futher down untill you have no strength left to do anything but live in depression....
http://www.essortment.com/lifestyle/advicewomenhe_skxj.htm
Here is a link hunny to help you understand , I will send another for your self esteem as you may need it in the future sweetheart...
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
Please think of your little one and think of you hunny Ive been there and children do pick up on everything that mum is going through and hear an awfull lot...TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU WITH MUCH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Cindy303 +, writes (4 April 2008):
 My dear its time to get rid of this man. He is abusing you verbally and one of these days that angry yelling will turn to a fist in the jaw. This man has issues and he needs help. You need to get out now with your little girl before he turns violent. You cant change him, you cant make him the man you once met. He is controlling you making you feel too scared to leave him. How can you love a man who treats you this way? Instead of doing anything for this man, try doing everything for you and your daughter and get out now.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (4 April 2008):
 get rid of him! hell never change and ull never do things to HIS satisfaction!
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