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writes:I have a long term partner of many years , with whom I'm really happy.About a year ago we were chatting in bed about dating in general, and how hard it must be to meet someone suitable, etc.We'd just been watching one of our favorite TV programs, which was all about blind dating.The conversation involved talking about iphone dating apps. We were laughing and having a great time talking about this stuff, and my partner wanted to know how dating apps work (she's a technophobe). So we downloaded an app, and in order to use it I had to link it to my Facebook account.We had some fun with the app.I then deleted the app from my phone and thought no more about it.I'm pretty sure my gf would remember all this.But the other day my friend told me his sister (who's single) saw my profile come up on a dating app. So now he and his wife think I'm looking for another girlfriend, when I'm not.At the time I told him I couldn't work out how this had happened.It's only when I recall all of the above that I've worked out why. Clearly, I didn't unlink my facebook profile from the app . Of course I have now done so.The question is, do I phone my friend's wife (who's my gf best friend ) and explain this to her? She may not believe me anyway. I don't think she'll tell my gf about it, but now I think when they see me they'll be constantly thinking I'm a horrible man who's looking at dating apps all the time, when the truth is I'm really not looking for anyone else,in any way shape or form!I can't tell my gf as obviously she won't remember the app, and she may think I've been looking at times other than when we were messing about together.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 August 2018):
 You contradicted yourself first off she will remember then nope she wont remember which is it? I don't understand why she would forget? If you are telling the truth I would explain it to your girlfriend before she hears it from someone else. Don't call her friend, that just makes you look guilty.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 August 2018):
 No, dont make fuzz about it. You removed it once someone informed you. No harm done. If someone tells your wife, and she confronts you, then inform her of the details. Its no big deal, so dont act like it is a big deal. If you make a huge fuzz about it, it will just look suspicious.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 August 2018):
 No you don't call your GF's best friend, UNLESS you want drama. It's none of her business.
If you aren't using the app anymore delete the profile, unsubscribe, make sure you are no longer linked with Facebook or other social media then uninstall the app. And Tell your GF what you did and why you did it.
IF her BEST friend knows... she does too or will, regardless.
And I have to agree, either your GF remember or she doesn't but I doubt she has forgotten ALL about it if that is where you met.... So don't lie to her... or to make your story seem less suspect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2018): Tell your girlfriend to call the relatives to explain. Of course your girlfriend will remember using the app. Unless, you’re not telling the truth!
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (22 August 2018):
 I would absolutely tell your GF. She'll remember and, if you're telling the truth, what's the big deal? You'll have another giggle! And it really isn't anyone else's business, but if you feel the need to clear the air, tell the story, with you GF present.
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2018): Yah if they are close friends of yours I would definitely call them up to explain. First I would tell your girlfriend and remind her of the time you used it together- just explain what happened as you did here. Then you could call together to explain, and explain that you never used it. They probably will think you are a pretty bad person if you don't offer an explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2018): Your girlfriend knows what's up. All the other people are just a bunch of nosy busy-bodies and all up in your business.
Sir, you're mature enough to realize that you don't spend a lot of your time worrying about what other people think. They had no business mentioning it to you in the first place. They were calling themselves judging you. You don't owe them any explanation. Your girlfriend knows the score, and if they bring it up to her; she'll set them straight.
Don't look guilty by over-explaining. They may not believe you anyway. You really didn't have to actually set-up an account to browse the site. That's what makes it all so suspect! All the trouble you went through; when all you had to do is browse as a guest.
There is always a link to unsubscribe your subscription; and you have to follow-up to make sure the site takes down your profile and pics. Some sites purposely leave inactive account profiles up to offer more faces for browsing; so it's up to you to make sure they remove your profile.
Does your girlfriend suffer from memory-loss? You left it up and you got busted. You looked at other times and didn't take it down. Why? That keeps your account activated.
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 August 2018):
 You say your GF would remember and then later decide she wouldn’t. Which is it?
I wouldn’t lose anymore sleep over it. If you’re genuinely not using the app then what’s the issue? If the situation comes up then I’m sure you can remind her of the time you used it together.
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