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writes: My Parents hate my boyfriend. i dont know what to do. they think that i can do better but he makes me so happy. i dont know whether to make my parents happy and finish it...but then i will be unhappy. Or do i make myself happy and stay with him..but make my parents unhappy. they are also saying if we go to the same universitys then my parents wont help with payments. :( please help! ive tried talking with them and asking them to give him a chance but they still dont like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): I hate your parents already... Well, maybe not hate, but definitely am very annoyed with them. What happened to allowing your children the freedom of choice, the freedom to love and the freedom to choose the lifestyle they want - so long as the parents give good parental guidance and some direction. Your life is in your hands.
As with Ms. Anon below me, if you aren't strong enough to go for what you want and be weighted down by the selfish needs of your parents, then by all means, end it. However, if you are strong, if your will power is personal and deep, then continue to stay your course.
Like I used to always say to my ex, "Being a good daughter isn't about doing everything your parents want. Being a good daughter is about being there for them and help them as they had helped u." Well there's a deeper meaning in Cantonese... 8/
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2006): I've been in same situation. My parents would not accept my boyfriend either - what are their reasons? My mum went into awful state and fell out with me. They also did what your parents did blackmailing me saying i was on my own if i wanted to date him – of course I didn’t want to be without my parents so I was forced to choose them. But I wake up and regret every day not being allowed a chance with him. My parents said that my happiness would cause them unhappiness – its hard to get a balance cos I think surely they should want to see their children happy and they are not going to be around forever.
I think you probably could find another guy who your parents accept and will make you all happy. There are lots more guys out there. If you feel you are strong enough to cope with the situation then I’d say go ahead and hopefully in time they will realise that he is a good person despite everything they think. I didn’t get as far as you to be actually allowed to date him.
If you have listened to their points and feel you are still willing to put your own criteria ahead of theirs ( you will accept this boy for who he is and don’t wish to find ‘better’) and feel it will make you happy then keep trying. Bear in mind that if there are ever any problems, you may be on your own because of their opinion. I think it depends how close you are to your family the decision you make. Good Luck. I know how you feel xxoo
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reader, stevie jade  +, writes (3 November 2006):
 Stay with him! Its took my parents well over a year to accept my fella, This weekend theyve invited him to a meal! There is hope, please dont give up. Your parents will realise in the end.
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