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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My parents are basically are just a (husband and wife) by name but they don't act like one. They had always been problems between both of them and especially my dad is physically and emotionally abusive. So they decided that both of them will not be responsible for one another and each of them has their own life. What makes disgusted is that both of them flirt/talk/date alot. My mom already have a boyfriend and she also flirts with tons of other men, my dad also date other women and god knows if he lies when he says he will be late hone because of work while he might be out with another woman. Its just disgusting and makes me sick every time i think about this. They don't know that i DO know about all of this and my dad doesn't know this about my mom and vice versa. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2017): I can see that this would be upsetting. Your parents have decided its time to act like a couple of unaquainted teenagers just at the time you are reaching adult maturity.As they are so hell bent on gazzumping your new found freedom and have forgotton that you still need mature adults around you, I suggest you make your point by baking two cakes and putting 21 candles on each separately.Then bring in the birthday twins, light the candles and sing happy bithday very loudly and tunelessly.Video record them as you ask them to blow the candles out and make a wish!Then tell them that as they are behaving like teenagers you thought you might produce more maturity by an adult rite of passage such as the 21 today cakes!Will this make them tone things down?Maybe they will rush to text or message their new sexual conquest or current partner.If they protest that they are much older than 21 yrs then you tell them that you are very disappointed in them as that means they are just ageing swingers trying to have it off with anyone so that they can talk about them later.Of course pay attention to Denizens advice and put 'moving out' as your next memo on your 'to do list!'
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (2 July 2017):
 This must be very upsetting for you. You want your mum and dad to be OK but they have fallen out of love.
I think the best thing you can do is strike out on your own, if you haven't already, and leave them to get on with it.
Some parents stay together, 'For the children'. If you are out of the nest they can remake their lives and perhaps settle into happier relationships.
I hope you find a way through this.
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