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*rancescaaw
writes:I'm 16 and i really like this boy who is nearly 19, ive seen him 3 times and we kissed on the 3rd time. He is so lovely and perfect and treats me like a princess, i've never met anyone like him before. However, the big problem is my mum and dad. They think that he is way too old for me, my mum even said that he only wants me for sex. this is really hard to believe as he has never even mentioned anything about sex or spoken dirty to me, i think that he is a generally nice lad. so my mum knows nothing about me seeing him as after seeing him the first time she told me that i was never to contact him again. I really want to see him next week but i hate that im lying to my parents! i just dont know what to do :( should i tell him i cant see him anymore? help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): Your mom and dad have a lot invested in your safety and happiness and you really need to give a lot of thought to this.
Lying to your parents separates you from the people who are more likely than not going to be keeping you safe, and anyone who encourages you to lie to them (assuming they are good decent parents) is sort of "separating you from the herd" so to speak, like a predator does with an animal in a group.
Those who get separated off get the worst of life usually.
Let me tell you, I'm married to someone who was not protected by her mom and dad when she was a teen, her parents would have said "OK" to your relationship with a boy this much older (and it may be legal but it doesn't mean it is good for you). Today, she wishes she'd had a parent who said "no".
As for nice guys, well, one nice guy held her down and raped her, then when she protested, he said "No one will ever believe you anyway." He was right...nobody did...not even her family did. When she told me the story it was long past the statute of limitations.
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