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writes:I think my husband is intimidated by me.We have been married for over 22 years. He lost his good paying job 2 years ago. The place he worked for closed up and left the US. He had worked there for almost 25 yrs. Now he has a much harder job that doesn't pay nearly as well, but we get by. He has been very depressed the last 2 yrs and the stress has nearly killed me too! He is so unhappy. I have tried everything to cheer him up. This past January I started working out and eating clean. I have now lost 43 lbs and I have totally transformed my body. I never imagined I would look this good at 42. Now my husband believes that I'm going to have an affair. He constantly wants to know where I'm going and how I'm going to dress. Honestly I now have a huge boost in sex drive, like I never had before. I've told him that I love only him, and I only want to have sex with him! For some reason we don't have sex but maybe once a week now! This is frustrating! For the first time in our marriage we could be having super hot sex but he keeps putting me off! I don't get it, is he mad at me or what. I would never cheat on him, but I understand why people do.Any advice for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Most men measure happiness by their success and power in life. Having to get a new job can be hard on anyone, so the depression is understandable, although it should be getting better after two years. (Maybe he should consider finding another job?)
To be honest with you, you come off pretty self-centered. It sounds like your husband is having a hard time and all you talk about is lack of sex and mistrust from your him.
My advice would be to keep reassuring him that he is your one and only, and if you want more sex try a surprise seduction with that new body of yours! A little effort can go a long way :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): He stuck by you when you were chunkin' it up 43 lbs ago.
Now you stick by him as he deals with his feelings of inadequacy.
Really, does loyalty mean nothing anymore...
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