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female
age
36-40,
*helley-jade
writes:My nan has moved in with my mum and dad. They already have 6 People in a 3 bedroom house and my nan is now staying. This wast a problem at first, but now i feel i cant have a life. if i go out with my friends she wants me home before everyone else goes out so she aint on her own.Then she goes no no no go out i dont mind, then few hours later i will be nearly ready to go out and my nan will go 'oh im going to be here on my own. Its getting me down let alone the rest of the family. She lost her 2nd husband a few months ago. When my grandad died(1st husband) my mum had her then as well. When she ask's her older sister and brother to have her for a while they will always make up excuses. its breaking the family up. What can i do. I need my space.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (27 May 2007):
 You are entitiled to have a life you shouldnt have to stay in to keep your nan company all the time.
Its nice to be close and have a good relationship but if this is stopping you from having a social life then thats not good.
Can you try to get your nan involved in a hobby of somesort to get her out of the house and to make her not feel so lonley?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (27 May 2007):
 You are entitled to a life of your own but you also need to be sympathetic to her - she may dwell on the bereavement when she is alone. She needs community contacts so she is not dependent on you and your relatives so much. Why don't you take her out to bingo, tea dance or whatever she likes to do a couple of times...she may meet people her own age and not feel she is home alone so much.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 She's not your parent. If she doesn't want to stay at home alone, that's her choice. Tell her to go out and do something. If she starts to complain, who cares? Go out and have your own life. You shouldn't have to be cursed to miss out on life because she's unhappy. When you're on your way out, just wear headphones, and turn your music up really loud.
DV1
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