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*J_1989
writes:Ok, I need to learn to chill out. I cant understant why im moody and morngy sometimes. Im scared of ruinin things with my current boyfriend. He's the best thing thats happened to me in a long time. Ive been through a lot.. i lost my mum in 2009 n my nan this year. ive had counselling for depression but didnt find it helped much. Im a good person, im in my 2nd year of nurse training and my dad is great. i dont get on with my older brother and sister but adore my nephews n niece. i have a lot going for me but every other day some one will say something and i could flip out, i dont shout much i just get moody and upset and seem to shut off. i cant keep blaming my mum dying for my mood swings even though it still hurts and i think of her every day. i also get jeaslous and i no i have no reason to be but i try and hide this from my boyfriend.I try n stay possitive but the mood sweings get the better of me sometimes and the little digs over silly little things i come out with. i dont want to drive my boyfriend away because hes slowly become my rock over time but im scared i could be doing just that. Reply to this Question
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reader, zebramint  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Im sorry about your mom. 2 deaths in a row are so hard, the same thing happened to me over and over again in a time lapse of only 8 months. Now all I have left is my Mom and my grandma and 2 of my 3 sisters. So I really think I understand that mood swing thing. Im thinking that your boyfriend probably understands too. You can still tell him that your stressed too just so he knows your not always like this. Dont feel bad about blaming your moms death for your moodiness. For me it was just something that was just like missing...like you have all these people supporting you but you still feel like you did before any of the help. And if your getting help with depression and stuff I think that its good that your accepting the help as it presents its self and hey, atleast your trying to get passed all of it. But if your gonna listen to anybody just listen to me. Being moody and shut-off is all in the healing process. For some people it just takes a little longer. It is absolutely nothing to feel bad about. Your boyfriend seems like a caring one and think about where you'd be without him...worse eh? So take this peice of advice. Your boyfriends still here...shes (sadly) not...The living should be your utmost concern even though its hard to forget. Im sorry babe. Patch things up with your family and stay positive ;)those little things that get to you, you just need to learn to shut off instead of the other way around by shutting your self off..you understand? Your question really stuck out to me and for some reason I really want things to get better for you. Keep up with me and shoot me a message time to time about how things are. I wish you the best..:)-Sincerely, zebramint
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