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writes:I don't know what to do!!!! I'm done with all of it an I want out and I want out now!!! I f*** up my life every chance i get but I'm not acting out for attention. I'm acting out to get away. I love my mother to death but for as long as i can remember me and her have been at each others throats. I never do anything right by her. I don't see why it matters all of a sudden though. she has never really cared to much about me, but when it makes her look bad she flips a bitch. we never get along and i moved away for two years in 7th and 8th grade and just resently moved back with her in june. I want to get legally emancipated but becuse she doeant beat me or anything i dont think i can what do i do? help!!!!... and and where do i get the emancipation papers and a good attorney? Reply to this Question
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (24 February 2009):
 I don't think you can in the UK but I will double check with some friends of mine who are more clued up on law.
But to be honest I don't think you have much of a case. If every teenager who has had enough of their parents divorced them. There would be literally millions of homeless teenagers, on the streets, because everybody gets annoyed at their parents.
Not everything you see on the Simpsons is a good idea!
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Hi there young lady, It seems that you and your mother may have almost the same personalities, and she sees herself in you and for some reason it distrubs her that you might make
the same mistakess she did. She cares about you though you can not see it now. Many, many years ago, when I was 15, my mom, who was separated from my father at the time and was trying to raise four girls, would not let me run hog wild and do what I wanted to do. She set rules and we had to adide by them. My sister ran away and got into much trouble, eventually it worked out for her, but not until things were almost completely screwed up. My mom forced me to go to school when I wanted to stay home, she is the reason I finished High School at 16. I owe it to her. As kids we think we know it all, but we don't. God gives us parents for a reason, to guide us through places that we have no idea as to the end result. Sit and think about it for a while, how will you provide for yourself, who will set boundaries for you, love does not mean letting a child do whatever he or she wants. Try to find a book on understanding your parents, to get some perspective on your problem and the reasons you have a hard time dealing with your mom. She gave birth to you with a lot of pain, she loved your little beibg, she fed you, changed your diapers, kept you safe from anything that she felt would harm you. She is trying the best she can to get you to a place and time that you will be able to fend for yourself. Being a parent is not easy, perhaps one day you will discover that. In the Bibble it tells us to honor our mother and father that our days might be long on the earth. It's a tough road growing up, but we have to understand that we need to learn how to live and survive in the world, our parents are here to help us reach that place. Try to control yourself and find some way to deal with it, do not feel that you must always have the right answer, as you get older you will see that we learn new things even after we are 50 or 60 years old. This is your only mother, try to get along with her. You will soon be of age and out on your own then, it's going to hit you, I'm responsible for myself. I remember myself, it was a scary reality. Try to take your time growing up, your teen years only come through once, rushing it will make you regret it, perhaps later on in life. Have a talk with your mom or write her a letter explaining how you feel and try to reach an understanding. I hope that I have helped you in some way. Take care and stay in touch. If there is another adult that you trust, ask them to be a mediator between your mother and yourself, that may help as well. Be good to yourself, but try to calm down and get through this period as best you can, you will be grown soon enough. Trust me.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Emancipation ususally only happens if you show you can support yourself financially. At 13-15, I doubt a court will support you on that.Do you have another parent or relative who would be willing to take you in? You could ask to have guardianship over you transferred to someone else. Again though, because you are not being abused, I don't have faith this will happen.You said you moved away for 2 years, who did you move in wih?I used to hate being with my mom, and things never even went so well with me over at my dad's house either. I felt the same as you, that I just wanted to be left alone! The day I turned 18 and was a legal adult, even though I was still in high school, things instantly got better. My parents backed off thinking I would fall flat on my face, and instead I thrived with the independence.If you can't find another safe home to go to, I suggest maybe just wait things out, as hard as I know that sounds.
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