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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello Aunts, I need your advice. I have been on and off long distance friends with a now married man for 10 years. We first met in an internet dating chatroom when he split as a bf from his now sife of 5 years. At that time we discussed aspects of our sexuality that he hadn't discussed with his partner. We discussed becoming friends with benifits and had phone sex several times. When his gf came back on the scene a few months later he disn't tell me, I guess I found out 18 months or so later. We loose contact from time to time but always find each other again and generally have just been friends since his gf returned. He always wishes me a happy birthday and New Year etc. More recently we met up in my home city for dinner with his wife and my current bf. His wife tried to stop it happening but we were so desperate to meet after knowing each other so long so I pressured him into ignoring her and making the meet happen. After that, we were on chat or email daily and he was saying nice things to me like how pretty I am and supporting me in my career. We became so close. He would sometimes email me and say he couldn't talk because his wife was around and eventually we started to chat online in work (we're in seperate timezones so its just for a couple of hours). Suddenly he stopped responding to my chats and emails. I chatted him everyday for two weeks and nothing! Whats going on, I really miss him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Thanks for the answers. I am wondering if he could be feeling more for me. I have always been a little in love with him if I am honest to myself. I have a good relationship right now but I have to wonder what could have been/ could be. I wonder if I am honest about how I truly feel he may open up to me. Do you think its normal that he would email and chat me everyday and tell me flattering things about myself but still just mean it as a friend? I get the impression he is unhappy in his marriage, truly is it wrong of me to at least believe there is more to this and that we should discuss it. Please any extra insight would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): Could he have dropped contact because he was developing more than friendly feelings?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Im guessing that his wife found out about it and therefore he has promised her to cut contact with you and that is what he has done, he probably realises that he needs to work on things with his wife and therefore he doesnt want to talk to you anymore as it is probably causing trouble for him. Am afraid you just need to accept this and move on, chat to other people online and make other friends you dont need this man in your life.
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