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writes:Been married for 26 years. I found out he has been taking hydrocodone and I believe he is addicted. He spends more time with a male friends than me. Nothing is the same. I asked why he doesn't want to spend time with me - he says he has more in common with his friend. Help! What do I do? My marriage is in trouble. Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (11 March 2011):
 I agree with Jovan. I think it's time for you to sit down and talk to your husband about the state of things. If he is spending more time with his friends, it's usually to avoid you and there's usually something he is hiding.Hydrocodone is extremely addictive -- not many people can just take a pill or two once in a while to make themselves feel better. I'd be very suspectful of anything he says in regards to his dealing with this drug.I suggest you make an appointment for yourself first to talk to a qualified therapist / marriage counselor. They should be able to direct you as the case may be to deal with his drug addiction. Optionally, you may want to check out al-anon -- they offer support for people who are in relationships with drug / alcohol dependents.I believe the ball is in your court, I hope you are proactive in dealing with this situation.Good luck.
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reader, Jovan  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 He is trying to find a consolation in taking substance`s!!! He has lost something inside of his soul, prolly badly disappointed in someone or something. You need to talk to him, as soon as possible, before it gets worse!
Talk to him and try to find out what it was that he lost, then when you do find out try to, no matter what, somehow, give it back to him.
You need to help him find his motivation that will bring him back on track. In most cases it is something a person had been doing in childhood or on a daily basis, like with engrossing interest.
Good luck
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