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writes:A girl friend i've known almost all my life has always been in love with this one guy. They dated a while but it didn't work out because they both realized they're better off frends. After they broke up, she has been crying about him for about 10 years, especially when she's had too much to drink, telling me that he is her soulmate and that she loves him but is not in love with him (whatever that means!). Although i haven't met him in all those 10 years, she tells me that he treats her as a good frend, but nothing more. I've always been there to listen to her, but thought nothing more about it.However, about 4 months ago, she introduced him to me when we were having a few beers with some other frends. We hit it off immidiately, and i have been dating him ever since. He is really serious with me, and has even said that he would want to get married some day.As a couple, we bump into my friend sometimes at clubs or pubs and she acts like she's ok with us dating, but after a few drinks, she gets aggresive, and tries to hug and kiss my boyfrend. She sometimes tries to slap and push me. My boyfrend pushes her away, hugs me, and ignores her. She says that she doesn't want us to be dating and that i'm a backstabber. But when she's sober, it's all fine again.My boyfriend told her to move on and doesn't love her. I've know this friend of mine all my life and i know she's crushed. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Depends...Who do you care about more? If you love thr guy more then you love your friend, then the choice is simple.She dumped the guy, she has no right to interfere in any way, shape or form.So try to keep the friendship as much as possible, and if she is determined to screw things up, then it's her fault and no one elses.Flynn 24
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