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anonymous
writes:My live in boyfriend wants to look at nude females online. He even prints the ones he likes. The problem is, When he does I get physicaly ill. Actually to the point of vomiting. What can I do to accept him doing this even though I don't approve of it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): This is a general problem with every male but one thing you should understand that it is nature and enjoying it is not wrong. He is very fair that he is open with you, and in some cases they hide and do things, you should appriciate him, he is not hiding with you and he will not hide anything in future and for ladies, what is more worng than having an affair with another female, so you don't fight with nor encourage him be normal.
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (2 March 2007):
It is rather over the top to be physically sick because of something which your boyfriend does which you don't like.
On the one hand, it is probably appropriate for him to be a little more discreet about this activity.
On the other hand, there are probably some very deep rooted issues at work inside you if you are having such a strong reaction, issues which a therapist could investigate with you. Are you afraid of rejection, for example?
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reader, Nikki866 +, writes (2 March 2007):
 Is he cheating on you by doing this.., in otherwords, do you consider it cheating? Men like the female body. It's a natural fact. Female bodies are beautiful.... they are a work of art and it's natural that any man would enjoy looking at a woman nude. I'm a woman, and I'm in a relationship. If my partner wanted to look at nudes, I might even join him if we were both comfortable with that. I guess what I'm trying to say is you shouldn't feel threatened. I would worry if he was looking at men. ;) If he's not having cybersex on the computer, or getting random cell phone calls in secret, or smelling like perfume, then that to me says he's honest enough with you to be faithful in the physical sense. Is he "hiding" this looking at women from you? If not, it's because in his mind, there is no threat for you. I would relax, but that's just my opinion. As far as vomiting over it, all I can say is we are all different, and what wouldn't bother me might bother you immensely. You have to take care of your own needs first, so if this really is a hot point with you to the point of getting physically ill, you may want to tell him you cannot tolerate it. (if you can't). But then you run the risk of him hiding it, and secrets are no good in a relationship...
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