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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi to all and any who may read this.I am involved in a living arrangement with a man for about a year. There have been a lot of ups and downs as to be expected but I am very uncomfortable with some of what I am experiencing.It seems as though whenever I express an emotion such as hurt or something along that line he shuts down. Last night we were talking about a friend of mine (most recent example) and he proceeded to tell me about how she showed him her tits which upset me and when I stated that he shut me down. I tried to communicate about it because I was upset and he tells me to shut it and go away. Needless to say this upsets me even more because I do not understand the rejection. I go through this a lot with him and there is no getting through to him just how cruel it actually is. He just tells me to go away. I am blamed for it all. It is like he does not feel.Time will go by and he will change and treat me kindly again and I get wrapped up in this cycle. I am wondering what is going on from another's point of view. He is telling me that it is me and I question myself at times. Is this right? Reply to this Question
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reader, CrimzonRayne +, writes (8 November 2009):
ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NOT.
It's completely wrong, and you need to kick him to the curb.
He's a jackass.
It doesn't matter if he treats you right for a little while... He'll do it again.
You obviously see that it's to the point where he KNOWS he can walk all over you... So he voices the things he does that are wrong like they're completely okay.
I'm sure you love him, but f love. Look at it from an outside view.
Would that be okay if it were your friend, or would you be giving them the same advice I'm giving you?
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