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*arcus
writes:Hi all,Ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months, she's 22 and i'm 18. I have several different problems. First is my jealousy, i get jealous over stupid little things that dont even matter. I always think about her past as well, she dabbled with hard drugs when she was younger and had 10 sexual partners. I just can't get the image of her doing drugs and having sex with others out of my head! I love her and shes a totally changed person since she had a child (now 2) with her ex. Ive now taken on the role of father. Im so possessive, i know i act like a psycho but cant stop reading her texts and emails (i know she would never cheat but i feel compelled to do it for some reason)I love her so much and i need to grow up, please help as we havent stopped arguing this week, its killing me.
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reader, marcus +, writes (22 June 2007):
marcus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice everyone, im now trying real hard to avoid these arguments and to stop being so jealous. Thanks alot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): Ive cheated twice in the past; I had my reasons. But now my boyfriend is acting the way you are. He hears something, which all the time is false, and he snaps. It gets me mad, but he says he trusts me, its just his jealousy. I thought it may be kind of cute; for a guy to be jealouse; but it really isnt that cute, Im telling you right now. Although, I love this boy, and no matter how much we may argue, I would never let him go, and if thats how she feels about you, then your jealousy wont 'cause you too lose her, but its gonna 'cause you in the future to have a weak relationship. So you just have to forget about her past - obviously if her past, isnt her pressent. She likes it better the way it is with you.
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reader, joshua19  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 yeah man i have the same thing but what ever you do DONT LET HER GO she is the world to you she loves you enough to tell you about her past now give the same respect and love her treat her with trust and you two will go along way
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reader, flower girl +, writes (20 June 2007):
 You are so going to lose this girl if you carry on this way,leave the past in the past and get over it you say she is a changed person and you know she would not cheat, she has been very honest with you to tell you all about her past and she has done nothing for you to doubt her about.
Do not let your insecurities wreck the relationship you have or you will regret it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Wake up tomorrow and make a choice. I know that it sounds stupid, but you're making a choice to be this way. Loving someone means putting your trust in them. If you don't trust her, you don't love her. It sounds like you're getting a little out of control with everything, and could pose potential danger to her mental or physical well being. She was honest about her sexual past: most women won't be. That means that she's putting her trust in you. Give her the same respect, or leave her, because she deserves someone who's going to love her...
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