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30-35,
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writes:i'm 21year old girl.. and also married.. my husband is not so good in behavior.. he always hurts me a lot... and i always use to cry and cry and cry....but nowadays m not thinking about that thing much also m not crying.. because I feel like i love one of my job partner who is 30yrs old... and i wanted to know is he serious in this relationship are not... is it rite are wrong...???according to physiatrist what will be a men's mentality in the age of 30...???????
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 I think you're overlooking something, dear. You are married and your husband is making you cry, making you miserable. Does he say hurtful things? Does he cheat? Has he ever hit you...? If you say yes to any of these questions, you are being abused. So you meet a coworker and he seems nice, you think that because he is 30, he's more mature and therefore will be better to you. You're ignoring the fact that you are married to a man who makes you cry and starting a relationship with this other man could be jumping from smoke to fire. At 30 a man should be more mature, but it depends on the individual. I've met 40yr olds that acted like 13yr olds. Work on your marriage or get out of it and take some time to heal, and know yourself and what you want and need before jumping into affairs, relationships, etc. But, don't cheat. Affairs like this lead to worlds of pain. If you really love this coworker, respect him enough not make him an affair. Again, get help for you and your husband or leave him.
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reader, CupidsPrincess  +, writes (17 September 2010):
It is natural for aplant to grow in the direction of sunlight. Married women who have some hiccups in their married life often find relief in relationships outside of it. Definitely, it is not right to have an extra marital affair irrespective of the behaviour of your spouse. I personally know one or two people who have done that.
I do not offer any advice here as I am not an expert in the matter of relationships. Also, you haven't provided much detail.
Did you have an arranged marriage? Why is that your husband is making you cry? Hae you tried to communicate it to him, I do mean spelling it out with examples? Frankly, men don't read between lines and you need to specify with examples.
Now about the new person in your life. Does he reciprocate your feelings knowing that you're married? Even if he is serious, it is not right to continue with it.
Both men and women are matured by the time they are 30. But it doesn't mean both of them can handle relationships with reason and understanding.
I strongly suggest you sort our your marriage before you think of your co worker.
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