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writes: I need a good advice here. Valentine day is coming,and it's always reminds you of love,if you have it or not.A long story short ,I don't know if I should leave my marriage or not....My husband stopped looking at me as a woman. I mean a few years ago, he won't look at me with desire,and he is not wanting any sex. When we do have some sex, he has soft penis. Now ,it is not because he is sick, because the doctors checked him in every ways.It started a few years ago ,after a serious argument, but he does not think there is any connection to this. Since than we saw doctors, therapists,etc.. No progress. He says ,he loves me. We had good sex before this . The argument was hurtful words,but he said he didn't mean any of them... He said"I never loved you, I just stuck with you" but he apologized, and took back all this. Now he is a very passive guy, hard to know what he really thinks. But he was good to me,and his kids. I wouldn't think ,he is a monster.We are in the mid forties, and this has been going on now for 3 years. MY DILEMMA IS...I don't know if I should carry on. Nobody can say I didn't try it. i really did, but I have no idea, what is going on with him, and I don't know,if I will ever find the answer. It is a puzzle to be solved,but I'm sick of it. I feel he might just fall in love with someone,and dumps me, one day. Yes I'm insecure. How can I live in such a fog? I really don't know,what to do with him.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): Some men just completely lose interest after years of marriage. We stopped having sex round about last year, after 7 years. He stopped looking at me, even while I was naked in the shower and even after having a child, I have to admit that I'm not neglecting my image. He told me he was now into the more mature type of love...whatever that means. Told him that I couldn't accept it and that I needed some passion in my life which he wasn't giving me. We are now seperated, all because he refuses to get intimate with me. Perhaps you should spend some time apart and find yourselves as individuals again cause we get so lost when being part of a couple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): Hi
I would first try to clear your fog by making so much effort on EVERYDAY not just valentines...you should remind him why he fell in love with you...laugh and play and dress up like you no doubt do! make him feel desired. If this has no effect then the rest of your life is your choice.
i wish you luck..those who play together ..stay together.
via con dios.
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