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writes:I'm 28, married with a 7-year-old young son and a 4-year-old son, and my husband's 30, working as an IT consultant.We are popular, and our lifestyle is good.I've become concerned recently about the amount of time my husband is spending with my dad - in fact he's spending far too much time with him.When they first met, they got on great, and they still do now. In fact, they ignore me and act as if they're still "the lads" (in their words).My husband ignored our first-born son's 5th birthday party to go out on an all-day trip and boozing session with my dad.Any opportunity he can get to spend with my dad - he does it.I spoke to my dad about it but he said "No-one telsl me what to do!" and refused to discuss it any more.It got the same response from my husband too when I discussed it with him. He just insisted "it's just a bit of fun, a fair game", but I feel this is happening far too oftn for my liking - I barely see my husband, due to work, and then him spending all his free time with my dad.I told my mum, and she isn't happy at all, not one bit, and neither am I, in fact I'm furious at the whole thing.Last week I decided I'd speak to him about it and ask him why he insists on spending so much time with him, but he was busy with work all week. On Thursday, I asked our next-door neighbour if he'd seen my husband, and he said yes, he was getting packed to go off on holiday with another guy who looked much older than him, bearded and with black hair. He said they spoke briefly, and said that they were off to Spain for SIX WEEKS - yes, a SIX WEEK holiday abroad!I asked our neighbour to repeat that description (the older guy) - and it fitted my dad right down to a tee.From what I was told, apparently that my husband's gone off to Spain for 6 WEEKS with my dad. I told him it was my dad and he said the whole thing sounds odd.how should I deal with this?? the whole situation is stressing me out for what should be an enjoyable time of year.It's just not right this whole situation, and I can't cope.all advice is much appreciated, i tried talking to my mum about it but even she can't cope.thanks, Lauren
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Even if there are no secrets with them, what they have done is totally outrageous and unacceptable by any stretch of imagination. How can they go somewhere for such a long time without getting your permission or atleast letting you know? How are you supposed to know if they are gone missing like something bad happened to them or they just left by their own will? This cant be tolerated at all. I hope you will hear from them soon with good enough reasons though I cant think of any rational reasons for disappearing like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): I should also add that my dad probably got away with it whilst my mum was at work, and as for how my husband got away with it, well, I've no idea.Laurenin Didsbury, Greater Manchester, United Kingdom
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): The next day, I phoned my husband's mobile, but got no reply - did the same thing with my dad's mobile - again no reply.It's all very odd and mysterious, and it's worrying me a lot.thanks for your help, GinaLaurenin Didsbury, Greater Manchester
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