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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i have been married for three years and have a 1 year old daughter. Recently I have noticed that my husband has lost interest in making love. I know he is not having an affair and has recently been very stressed due business issues. But whenever I try to make an effort he does not respond. I dont know what to do, I feel ugly and unloved and am sick of making the first move with him. What shall I do? Birmingham
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): First off, dont feel ugly at all. He still loves you and finds you attractive, but you said he has been stressed out lately. For a lot of guys if we are really stressed and worried about something, it might seam like sex would take our minds off of it and help us relax, but really we wont be able to enjoy it with all the other things in our head. You should just try your best to be comforting to him and help him relax. Give him a massage, help him relax, dont worry about sex, just enjoy your time with him and try to have some fun without having sex. Then when he starts feeling more comfortable and less stressed with everything, see if you can initiate some action. Just try to put on some sexy clothing and maybe give him a dance or something to stimulate him. Try to do whatever it is that he gets most turned on by and once you get him started, he probably wont want to stop. If anything, just try to sit him down and open up to him and tell him you miss the sexual part of your relationship and see how he feels.
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