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writes:Hi, Recently my husband has been having high ego and attitude problems. He wants me do things exactly he says, if not done that way there are fights.He wants to rule me. If i take any decision he says "you have to ask me before you do anything" (regarding business that i am handling)! I am an adult, and I can do things myself, the problem is if i do it my way either he will fight with me so much that i have sit and cry or leave him. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2012): And believe it or not, domestic violence is worse at 30 and above than below 30 because of rigid attitudes about gender.
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reader, Vriddhie  +, writes (16 December 2011):
You need to show him the same attitude as he shows you. Stop giving him so much attention.Make yourself busy in your own world.Fulfill the basic responsibilities of a wife but don't give so much importance. It will take time but he will change over a period of time.Also don't make yourself with his one smile.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (6 May 2009):
 Hmmm. If you two have a joint account, I can understand why he would want some input on where the money goes, but if it's constantly everything that he wants his way in, you need to leave him. Fast.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (6 May 2009):
 Your husband can only rule you if you let him! His behaviour is emotional abuse bordering on domestic violence. It is all about power and control for him based on him feeling quite bad and weak really in the world at large (so he picks on you to feel better about it). You are not in the military, you are in a marriage - it should be a union of equals where you have freedom to make your own decisions. Stop asking him for permission and let the fights proceed, leaving is they get physical - the fights for him are about re-asserting his power since you then back down and cry. If he is unwilling to change, leave him and call a domestic violence shelter for assistance as what he is doing is definitely abusive behaviour. If you allow him to do it then he isn't motivated to change since his need for power and control is being met. TIme to say NO!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): I would leave his sorry ass and find a man that truly loves and respects you. Life is way to short for that bs.
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reader, Tweetybird828 +, writes (5 May 2009):
You should talk to your husband and tell him how he is making you feel. You guys got married which means he loves you so you really dont need to worry about that, but you should talk to him about his attitude problem. Ifg he works maybe he is have a problem with co-workers and you are the only one he can take his anger out on. Just talk to him...... I am sure you will get it worked out!
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