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writes:My husband hasn't given me affection for over 10 years now. Our relationship is diminishing with him not wanting to deal with our problems or even discussing them. I very lonely and feel like I am loosing my mind. He won't talk about love at all - wants not to talk about it only leads me to believe that he doesn't and won't admit it. We have kids so I am assuming he is only staying with me for the kids. I didn't do anything horrible to him - he is the one that had the affair and told me 5 years ago that he has simply fallen out of love with me. How shallow is a man who does this? My view is different than his. I want to be there for my kids and I work very hard to make them happy. Am I doing more damage by keeping this family together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): It can be rough for the kids. Has any of them asked questions? Such as, where is dad or are you fighting? Kids can see things, they pick up what is around them easily, like we once did, but we may have become numb to our own problems.
Allot depends on how you two interact with each other. If you have arguements, if they are heated or cool. If they are heated, then maybe a divorce or legal seperation would be best. If it is cool, then staying together would be best. Anytime a parent leaves the house, this will have an impact on the kids, unless the kids have been hurt personaly by your husband, if they have, then they would feel relief if he left.
Any ideas why he may have fallen out of love with you?
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reader, Cindy303 +, writes (31 March 2008):
 I dont know what its like to be married and have someone tell me they dont love me anymore. Though, my sister and her husband have come to that conclusion that they need to seperate and divorce because she doesnt seem to love him anymore. I wish there was something I could say that might help you. I think that the worst thing you can do for yourself is to stay married to a person that has told you he does not love you. How is that fair to you or him or the children? Children can sense things in a marriage. They may be young, but they can see whats going on. You need to sit down with him and put the cards on the table. Talk this out and come to a mutual decision on what to do. Best Wishes to you.
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