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anonymous
writes:Could anyone please help me i realised that i do not like it when my husband give more attention or talks more to other women then he does with me. I also relised i am jelous but its getting worse. And i do not want him to think that i do not trust him because i do trust him. And i know that relationships/ marriages end up bad because of jelousy. I am also trying to talk more but im also shy. So i never know how to start a confersasion nor talk about a subject. And i also dont wanna sound childish because all the stuff the other women talks with him or jokes with him sounds so mature and like talkative. I do not know if its because he says im fat and says other women is sexy and even tell them your looking good. But then the guys says im a good looking person and he is lucky. Because i am loyal towards him. And what can i do so he doesnt think i dont trust him or to talk more. At this moment we barely talkhe only talks to me if he wants to know something or wants something or wants to do something wich doesnt concern me at all. Like he told me he have to fix a lady's pc Saterday. Normally he will say saterday we quickly need to go by eg. Samantha's place i need to go do something there. Now its like stay at home bitch why you wanna come with? Yesterday he had to go to a friends house Jimmy so i said cool lets me go to the shop get some cooldrink to take with and get some sweeties for theire kids and then me and the wife can chat... I could see he didnt like it at all. when we arrive there , there were this other women. Wich they talked on on about stuff it felt like they know each other. My husband even over talked the other guy and chatted with her and prettend that im not even there!! Please help me i wanna save my marriage and want us to get to normal i want him to talk to me like we use to. I miss him so much during the day. He just says i dont have time for childish stuff..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): i think the first thing that you can do for yourself is getting your confidence bag.You need to look into the mirror and remind yourself that you are still beautiful and very special.Dont wait for him to tell you that because he might not.Pray for your marriage, because according to me, men are just like kids.They get bored easily, they minds are very wild.Nagging him might make the situation worse, remember men hate nagging with all their hearts.The only One who make yo feel better about yourself & at the same time be able to change the heart of your husband is God Himself.Start communicating with Him (God)about your marriage and continue to do your duties as a wife and it will get better everyday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): I am sad because you are so desperate to save your relationship you are prepared to be treated like dirt. Your husband has no respect for you. He puts the feelings and needs of other people over yours and you are seemingly turning a blind eye to it. You have a long way to go to realise that his behaviour is absolutely wrong. 'Nice Girl Syndrome' by beverly Engel might help you but you need to accept that you going along with all of this crap is not right. Please spend some time with people that make you feel good. Remember we are a reflection of the 5 people we spend most time with. He has reduced your self worth to nothing.
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (10 February 2010):
i think no wonder you are jeolous if he is treating you like that calling you fat thats not a guy who loves you and if he is talking and giving his attention instead to you but to another women he is not interested in you anymore and will cheat anyway get rid of him you deserve so much better
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