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writes:I am faithful, but My Husband say's "I dont trust anybody", incuding me.. what can i do to gain his trust? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Trust is one very vital element in a relationship and without it relationships are torn apart. Sit him down and have a talk. Ask him when the trust issue first started in his life. Then tackle the problem from that. Maybe councilling will help?
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 You don't really say how long you've been together but my guess is, it'll come with time. His trust issues could be deep-seated, back to his childhood, or former relationships. Some people never trust anyone completely but they learn not to accuse at the drop of a hat either. I hope he will outgrow this problem eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): I have been a salesman and a negotiator most of my life. The TRUST issue is not as important as WHAT YOU NEGOTIATE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. You must understand that marriage is a CONTRACT for whatever you have agreed upon. DID HE EVER AGREED TO TRUST ANYONE INCLUDING YOU? That is his right to TRUST or NOT TRUST anyone. If you have the ability to convince him that "It is better to trust everyone until they prove that are not trustworthy" then you win. He insists to convince you that" It is better NOT TO TRUST ANYONE unless they can prove that they are trustworthy". Well, it looks like your husband has won so far. Good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Well first you got to find out why he has a trust problem! Just doing this will probably make him trust you more – if he can open up.
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