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writes:My husband doesn't seem to be interested in sex. Everyone says I'm attractive and I get a lot of attention from other men. I am totally committed to him but I feel like I've tried everything. I have tried to be "hard to get", understanding, and I've tried taking charge. When it does get through to him he always wants me on top and it takes at least 30 minutes, but more commonly 45. He's totally silent during and doesn't touch me, so it starts to feel like arduous labour... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): ive been having the same problem with my husband weve been married for 9 yrs in june and we have never had this problem until about 3 months ago im very frustraited i feel like hes not into it when were having sex and alot of the time he doesnt even have a full erection or he just goes limp
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Hi again, I found a website that might help you in your discussions with your husband.
http://blogs.webmd.com/sexual-health-sex-matters/2006/09/top-10-reasons-men-dont-want-sex.html
Good luck to you as you work on this.
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reader, Crazy-Candice  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 I know this sounds bad but that is so lame, i had a similar problem with my ex,
I think if its their problem they should get it sorted out! it shouldnt be your responsibility,
with me and my ex out lack of intimacy drove a wedge between us and i got fed up of making so much effort so I couldnt take it anymore and told him we should be just friends then I got myself out there and found guys that WERE interested and it was fun and exhilarating,
I reckon you cant keep banging your head against a brick wall, you deserve better than this!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 April 2008):
I assume you've tried talking with him about his lack of interest in sex? What has he said?
Reasons why he's not interested could be many. One is a medical problem; if he expects you to do all the moving maybe he is afraid of exertion on his part. Has he been checked out by a doctor recently?
Another potential reason could be depression.
Yet another is that he is having issues with his sexual orientation and isn't actually heterosexual...
I think that you need to get some professional help on this; have him see a doctor for options A or B above. Option C could be investigated if you two go to counselling together.
Obviously something needs to change if you are going to remain happy in your marriage; I hope that you two can communicate well and with love and understanding on each other's parts.
All the best.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Perhaps he may have some psychological problems and he needs professional help.
You may read more about it on this link;-
http://web4health.info/en/answers/sex-no-desire-psy-m.htm
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