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writes: I am 26 years old. I have been married for 6 years with 2 beautiful daughters aged 5 and 2. My husband does not show any signs of affection, he is not communicating with me even though I attempt to talk to him. I have been interested in having another child but he doesn't want anymore and that's the end of discussion. Im lonely, I need someone who is going to pay attention to my needs. My husband is the only person I have ever been with and now I find i'm attracted to this guy and he's married which is only making me worse. What do I do? Do I need to look at the inevitable should I stay or should I go? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSince I wrote this question. I am still getting nowhere with hubby. I want to talk but he continually blocks me out. And its frustrating because Im not sure what I should do. We have been together too long to just through it all away but he always seems to think of himself. his job is more important than my responsibility of looking after the children hopefully soon I will have figured out what to do. thank you to all those wonderful people who have taken the time and effort to respond to my problem and I hope you all have a happy and healthy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): I find both of you have a cause to what your feeling. you should not think that is mind is asleep so than get interestet to what he mighty be thinking.That can be caused by misundersting,or stress,if he is your husband try to sult out the problem bevor calling for help from other pple. what awunderful life you get when you open up our eyes to living God. Am married with baby girl (8months am 27 my hus 47 living i different problems but we sit and talk
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reader, Diane312006 +, writes (5 February 2006):
I know exactly the way you feel, I have been married for 15 years now, I am 31 years old and my hubby is 37 years old, it seems , although he often tells me that he loves and cares about me, he doesn't show me any affection, it hurts me so emotionally, I often stop and think to myself , what's the problem , I'm attractive, I take really good care of myself but since this little fling happened between him and a 22 year old female, he's not the same hubby.
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (19 January 2006):
 I don't know the whole situation, however I do have empathy for your situation as I've been there and done that. Telling you to cheat would be the WORST idea I could come up with. If there are serious financial considerations then I can tell you it directly impacts a man's ability to love. He (from what you said) sounds like that ole cliche'. The seven (or 6) year itch. Don't really understand why this occurs but an extreme amount of partners report infidelity or fantasies about someone; around this time frame. I also know that for both of ladies, that the couples who have remained faithful throughout this period; went on to have great marraiges. Some went on after trying the other side of the fence. I know some made it but with a very damaging blow; either to their partner or themself.
I do encourage if at all possible, to corner him, lasso him, hogtie or just plain beg him to sit down for an hour and tell him HONESTLY what you are thinking. This should wake up his coma, as no man willingly let's the mother of his child(ren) put their marraige nor relationship in jeopardy. I would ask that you DON'T threaten to cheat; nor mention bringing another child into the world. I simply ask you to ask him to listen to your feelings/thoughts for 30 undivided minutes. Your not asking for much; just his mouth closed and your's talking. Tell him that 30 minutes is all it takes to save a lifetime of heartache. What man wouldn't listen? (well, I guess there's a few)
Communication; especially ongoing, is the hardest thing to maintain; it is however, the most crucial aspect of mankind (and womankind). Through communication hopefully he will see that your still the wonderfull woman he fell in love with and not just his childrens mother.
GOD bless you and good luck
Ed
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to cridagus for her helpful answer. I have thought it was something only I was going through(obviously i'm not, it does make me feel somewhat better though knowing that) and i'm going to try talking to him soon (or get someone else to)and from there i will have to see where it pans out.
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reader, cridagus +, writes (18 January 2006):
Oh my God I know what you are foing through. I have been married for 5 years have 2 boys 5 and 7 and I feel like a single mother. He never communicates I hardly feel loved. I too became interested in a married man. He was/is everything my husband is not. So my friend asked me if I was attrected to him or if the type of man he is (caring, loving a good involved father)is what I was attracted to. It is hard some times the grass looks greener, but it might not be. I learned I love my husband for a reason and even though he might not be everything i want and need at times, he does love me, if he didn't he would not be here. Hope that helped.
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