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41-50,
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writes:My husband disappears for hours at a time. Some times he is gone half the day. He tells me he is going out for and ten minutes then he is gone for like 2 hours. Then he comes home, and leaves again, for a few more hours. I find this frustrating. We have two small children, and it feels like he is just trying to escape the responsibility of it. He'll go out for hours and not even stop to get diapers or formula. He ignores my complaints, and says all I ever do is try to start fights. I don't need to know where he is every minute of the day, but I could use some help at home. Either with the cleaning or just taking the kids to the park, and he just doesn't want to be apart of it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): I think I would want to know where he was. If all he gets at home is nagging and the pressure of children he could be seeking comfort anywhere at all. In a bar, fishing, friends, who or what?You need to find out how much he still has invested in this relationship and you know whether of not he is loving towards you ever. If among the bad mood there is never an expression of love, a hug or a kiss, then worry. I know it feels like it at the moment but life is not all nappies and formula and if it is he is being pushed out. Is he a man or a child? You need some time together alone, so arrange it and tell him you notice how hard life is and whether you can help him feel more loved and wanted. He can reply by helping you, not with shopping, add in foot rubs and nice meals. Anything sexy and romantic. This happens to a lot of people and is not your fault but you have developed some bad communication with the stress of the babies.
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