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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been married 17 years my husband had a year affair and continued to see and talk to her for another year and a half with out my knowledge. Now he claims depression, stress anxiety disorder. I can't trust him. He wont leave. Tells me I'll be sorry. Many children from the marriage. Wont help with the kids or anything. If leaves refuses child support.Can't get him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): 1.)Find a good attorney.2.)Child support is mandatory, and he will have to pay it or go to jail. Parents are held responsible for their children now days.3.) Stop being a victim. It's self abuse to not care enough about yourself to allow him to stay when you could file for a separation/divorce and get on with a healthy happy life.I am not saying that process will be easy, but the first step is to change IS ACTION. 4.)Think of the expample you are setting for the children. What are they learning about self respect, personal boundaries and responibility for ones behavior?5.) You are in an abusive, manipulative relationship. It can do things to your self esteem, cause debilitating depression and steal your strength to change it. You need support; friends and family that are positive loving people.6.)Seek counseling ASAP!7.)Start putting away as much money as you can. Anything you find laying around in drawers, every time you go shopping write the check for $10.00 over and get that back in cash. Go in with some friends on a garage sale and take your sale items over there - sell and put that money away. Do everything you can to build up a nest egg.8.)Become independent in every way you can.9.)You have to be good to yourself. Learn how to do that through counceling and if you cannot afford that look for any women's organizations to help you for free.Good luck to you and God Bless!
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (6 February 2009):
 In this situation i would see a solicitor.
They can help to remove your husband and get him to pay child support.
I'm sorry i can't give alot of advice.
Olivia.
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