A
female
age
36-40,
*atalina217
writes:I feel so inadequate and undesired. I've been dealing with something for about a year now. I'm in a relationship for about 5 years and sex was so amazing the best I've had but in this last year it's taking a nose dive. I need some ideas and some input. I'm gonna start with saying what's been going on then I'm gonna ask my question later. A year ago I found porn on my man's phone and saved pics but that never really bothered me though I didn't like it I delt with it. I was still getting my love and attention I know I deserve and porn is the norm in society today and recently I've been getting into it more often to meet my sexual needs. The problem started with the social sexting sites I found on his phone multiples of them. I blame myself for it over one curious drunk night we had together a year ago we went on one and made a profile together. It wasn't my cup of tea and ee discussed it and vowed yo nit use it again and instantly I got a bad gut feeling and immediately I was filled with regret. That's were things started and they got worse now I feel like I've made a mistake though yes we talked about it and I said I felt about it I thought he understood. Then I found lots sexting sites on his phone and confronted him about it we discussed it again and only recently has he stopped but he is still running to porn and saving pics now I do have a problem with it. I don't like what I've become (insecure, pro detective and jelouse
View related questions:
drunk, porn Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (28 May 2015):
 If you don't see the intense feelings grom watching porn then you should find a different partner that feels like you rather than feel un loved.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2015): I agree with the first comment at the bottom. Porn is a sick, degrading thing that causes a lot of damage to relationships and even to the person using it. Draw your lines and if your partner doesn't care that you're hurt by his porn usage, leave him.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2015): Some people are into porn and some aren't. Some are into the more explicit and rougher porn and sex. Some aren't.
As long as it doesn't affect your ability to love someone and make love, then live and let live.
Bitch about it all you want, porn will NEVER go away. It's just a simple and easy way for guys to masturbate. Nothing more.
If you dislike porn, then you need to bring it up, as you would any other issue. If nothing else he can be more discreet about it.
What were you gojng through his phone for anyway? You don't go throughthe someone elses stuff and then bitch about what you find there.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2015): On the one hand you say you are ok with porn and on the other, you admit to feeling undesirable. You also mention that pirn is ok because nowadays everyone uses it. Porn is not ok and you do not need to accept it. The feelings you are having are perfectly normal and it's time that women who are in touch with these feelings stop accepting societal pressures to accept an industry that does nothing but degrade women and make them feel bad The vast majority of porn depicts women being called names , slapped and generally treated as less than human The pro porners can say what they like to defend porn but can never seem to answer why men need to see women treated badly to get off You do not need to accept it if you don't want . Up to you . If not, tell him the relationship as it is, doesn't work for you
...............................
|
