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writes: How I'm Married ..can any one tell me why my hubby and I only have sex when he wants it and If I don't cum he says ....sorry i'm done ..you have to wait for next time...help...he never has to wait ...y do i...i'm so unsatisfied it aint funny what should i do.... Reply to this Question
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reader, mystify +, writes (4 January 2006):
 masterbating yourself will never bring the satisfaction you get from an orgasm acheived by sex,
(in fact while my fella was away it only made my desperation worse),
you need to tell him that its no good, sex is supposed to be enjoyable to both of you and that you need him to focus on you aswell, if that dont work try not giving him sex whenever he wants it say no sometimes make him wait till the next time you are horny and ready if youve already turned him down a couple of time my guess is he will be less likely to turn you down , in fact he should be raring to go!
get on top, do it how you like it, take control , he will probably like this too and could bring a whole new spark to your sex life!
if he still finnishes before you, next time go to bed just before him pleasure yourself for a bit but stop just before orgasm save it for when he joins you, then there should be no question of who comes first
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reader, loni +, writes (4 January 2006):
I say get a toy (dildo) help yourself out and don't hide it, let your husband know you can satify your sexual need selfishly too, and just maybe he will be excited and join in, but if not at least you got a toy, I actually have a great sex life, but I also love my dildo too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2005): Hi I cannot tell you what to do about it; but I am in a similar situation. Ever since I moved in with my boyfriend sex is so boring-he does what he does and rolls over to sleep. I am often left feeling used and stupid for letting him. He keeps saying that he will try to do something to improve but he never does. I can only symphathize with you-sorry.
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reader, iloveamy  +, writes (27 December 2005):
I'm not sure that what I have to say will help much...however - as women generally require clitoral stimulation more so than vaginal...I like to make sure that my girl is 'happy' before I receive my pleasure.
This makes her happy because she quite often has orgasms from both clitoral and vaginal stimulation - and I am happy too!
Plus, if I concentrate on her at first anyway...she is well lubricated ready for 'me'.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (27 December 2005):
 As wrong as this may sound it works.
When you and your husband are having sex, play out your fantasy in your head, close your eyes and picture every detail from your fantasy and when you feeel your husband is drawing to a close, make him pull out and let him touch you, this way the friction on your husband stops and it slows down the climax for him and while he is touching you it keeps your senses stimulated. then when you feel he is ready to continue then carry on.
Try to be on top, that way you can control the movement and depth and you can place pressure on the parts that get you going at the pace you want it and if all else fails then picture Brad Pitt in your fantasy.
Good Luck!
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reader, crzycat +, writes (27 December 2005):
This has got to be hardest thing to ever accept as a women. You spend half your life with men telling you they "want" you, then when you settle down with one...he shows less concern than anyone in certain ways!
My first thing would be to try and talk to him about it, nicely. If that fails, then take care of yourself. I had to do it for over a year. It was terrible. But remember one thing. Cheating is not an option, that breaks the bond of trust which is the foundation of your marriage. Do anything but cheat. It's hard to deal with not getting satisfied sexually (I KNOW!!)but the effects of cheating will be much worse (I KNOW THIS TOO).
Good Luck!
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