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writes:I found gay porn on my guys computer..it wasn't just one site, there were several over a couple of days and some had galleries,is it normal for straight guys to look at gay porn? There was other porn but quite a lot of gay porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Why do you think a 'straight' man would be watching gay porn? I mean it... be objective. How would you answer that question if someone came up to you and asked?
Using logic, it is because he is interested in homosexual sex. Is that a sign of being 'straight'? No. It is a sign of being either bisexual or gay and in the closet. I know of several gay men in long term relationships who had girlfriends (long and short term) through college, through their 20's and well into their 30's... only to decide to come out and live openly gay.
One guy I know of was engaged to a woman. The relationship failed and he is now 'married' to a man and they had a baby using a surrogate.
When you get right down to it, I can see why you want 'answers' from him (and others) on what this means... however it can only mean one thing... he is interested in men. Perhaps (like the men I know) he is trying to find a way to reconcile that he is in fact gay.
Just like my friend/acquaintance who was once engaged to be married... he made love to her, took her out, and spend romantic time together... and yet he is gay.
You know deep in your heart what you have to do... you cannot change him and I would caution you against indulging in threesomes in order to satiate his 'curiosity'. In the end you may get hurt and burned...
Move on and perhaps he will come to peace with himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses..looking at some of the sites they are gay websites there was a variety of them. some sites were repeatedly visited..no evidence that he is chatting or anything but I was curious why a straight guy would be looking repeatedly at gay porn sites..there was some normal porn but quite a lot of the gay porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2010): If you want to find out, pretend or act like you think it is sexy, exciting instead of questioning him or getting mad or crazy. He will open up and tell you what is going on and that is the only way that you will find out.
having stated the abive, don't be surprised that he is at least bi or has bi tendency.
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reader, JustinNki +, writes (25 December 2010):
 wouldn't you rather him watch gay porn and *maybe please himself to that, then him actually go out there and do gay deeds.
I agree, It doesnt make him gay or bi, I have a girlfriend and have watched gay porn before, it is a curiousity it is a amusement, its also something forbidden that turns me on. lmao dont judge me.
The only thing is, feeding into gay porn might just give more ideas in his head which could lead to gay acts or wanting too.
I think its fine tho, just talk to him about it :)
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reader, Worrywart  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 I don't think it means he has to be gay or even bi.I have straight female friends who watch lesbian porn but have no urge to have any real lesbian experience in real life.The sort of things that people think of or look at,for masturbation,are quite often 'taboo' topics.E.g.The rape fantasy is common for women,but I strongly doubt a single woman who has that fantasy could think of anything worse than this actually happening in real life.It's possible your partner does have gay or bi tendencies&I certainly think you need to discuss this,but remember it could just be a fantasy he never wants to act on.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 Curiosity has no boundries. Are you not curious about lesbians?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 You asked:
is it normal for straight guys to look at gay porn?
Answer: Nope.
He might be bi or he might be gay but in the closet.
But his actions are not that of a straight guy.
Sorry to be the one to tell you this.
Depending on your values or your expectations, this could be either the end of your relationship, or taking the relationship in another direction.
-Frank
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reader, soon567 +, writes (24 December 2010):
No, you guy is bisexual and he like guys like you do. As soon as he able to come clean to your about his feeling, the better your understanding of him and the situation you find yourself in the better.
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