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writes: Hi i have ten grandchildren who i love to bits and i know they love me. each one of them has their own individual personality, however one of them worries me. the grandaughter in question is a thirteen year old busy body who spends all of her days tooting and eye spying and poking her nose in things that dont concern her. i have encouraged her to go out and have fun like girls her own age, but she still keeps on interfering. i even caught her listening at the door with a glass and she has also been known to listen in on peoples phone calls and read their text messages.how can i make her understand that it is none of her business?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2006): Your grandaughter sounds like she's bored and maybe needs more one on one attention from her family. She also needs to connect with friends in her own peer group. It sounds like she may not make friends easily? I ask this because quite often children hide 'peer' distress with acting out. Basically, as far as her nosiness goes, the only thing you can do for this situation is encourage her to be more respectful of other people's privacy by encouraging her to make good behaviour choices. She is old enough to understand the value of respect. You can only do this, in your home. Your house..your rules. I would bring up this concern, with her parents in a gentle, loving way. They need to know she's having some troubles. She really does sounds special and sometimes grandmothers and grandaughters need to be with each other in a special, different way. Why not encourage her with love and set the example of respect for her by doing something special and spending time just with her, regularily. Take her out for sunday brunch or to a movie. Take this time to build a more open, trusting relationship. Perhaps, over time, she will talk to you about what is troubling her.
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reader, NOVEMBER TOPAZ +, writes (3 April 2006):
 hi i understand that this problem with your grand daughter is quite a concern but being young myself i remember that when i was her age i was always interested in everything else that everyone was saying or doing although you need to sit your grandchild down and explain to her that somethings are just not for a child to know about. her behaviour is quite normal for a teenager and i do beleive that with a gentle guidance and patience from you this matter will soon be sorted out please dont worry as i dnt beleive there is anything abnormal with her behaviour all the best ..topaz..
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (3 April 2006):
 I understand your problem as i come from a family who as a child who has the same behavour.She as resantly stoppped as she has got older but she was really bad at 8 and 9.Your grandaughter is at an age were she shouldn't be doing this but don't just tell her to poke out sit her down and explain to her that you don't feel comfortable when she does this.But don't just overlook this matter has she may be doing this for a reason.Could she possibly feel insecure with the other children getting attention?.As she any younger relatives who recieve more attention then her?.This could possibly be her way of getting attention.This could also be something serious so if you find you talking to her isn't working then try contacting your gp who could give you a diagnoses if their is one.
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