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writes:What is up with my girlfriend? I sent her a text saying that I was having jealousy issues, and that we should be apart tonight, since she practically lives at my house. Basically, this all comes down to her allowing 2 guys that were her "friends" to cum inside her, and she ended up getting preggo, this was all before I knew her, she slept with 6 guys to my 2 girls. I just get so disgusted with her past sometimes, I just want to cry, and tonight I couldn't take it. I know she isn't too particularly proud of her past, but sometimes it just gets the best of me, and I would rather her not be around while I'm in my state. I basically sent her a text message that I was in a bad mood, and that we should separate for the night. She knows I have issues with this, but what bothered me is that she never text me back. I dont mean to sound arrogant or full of myself, but when she doesnt text me back, or acts like I'm important, it really makes me want to reconnect with previous women. I am an attractive male, with an attractive figure and have never had any problems approaching women, but when it comes to hooking up, I've always been reserved, and my girlfriend hasn't been in the past, and now I have these feelings t hat I should have slept with all these girls, and sometimes I feel like getting in contact with girls I know that wanted to sleep me just so I can even out the number of partners. I must be crazy, but if I am, tell me what to do. Her history of allowing two guys to cum inside her just makes me sick, and as much as I love her, and I truly do, I just don't know if I'm being fair to hair. I vaguely mentioned breaking up with her because of MY insecurities, but she wen't ballistic and didn't want to even think of it. What do I do.
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reader, Padlock  +, writes (6 January 2011):
I read your story and it seems to me that you should walk away, I real man is not who stays there, the real man stays in the appropiate place, you will probably never feel confortable with this girl, so let her go and deal with her issues and find someone who is more like you, A person should be able feel proud of the one he selects to share his life with, love is not complicated we are, if you are having problems accepting her now, imagen how it will be later, dont fool your self. be a man and do what you know you have to do, and do it now.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (6 January 2011):
See...Normally when something makes us sick or disgusted, drives us crazy, and so on, we get rid of the problem.
So, if we keep the problem around and then complain about what the problem is doing to us...Hmmm, what does that mean?
You like the problem, or you like to complian about it??
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (6 January 2011):
 You need to work on yourself and your fragile ego. I know all the neckbeards here will be like, "DUDE IT'S A NATURAL MALE IMPULSE" but it's really your insecurity coming out. The fact that you're focusing on a "score" and getting mad when she doesn't act like you're important (really? REALLY?) pinpoints where the real problem is. It's with you. If you don't fix it you will run into the same problem in your other relationships.
I suggest that you read some books and articles about insecurity. Here are two links for you to start with:
http://www.askmen.com/money/body_and_mind_150/154_better_living.html
http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcoming-insecurity-in-relationships/
Just try to remember there is nothing fundamentally wrong with either of you as people. Learn to accept yourself and your insecurities will start to wither and die.
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