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*overBoy91
writes:Hi, I'm gonna go straight to the point; My girlfriend won't give me oral sex. She says she doesn't like doing it, even if I tell her that I really like it and would really love to do it to her first. I'll be straight, this is my first girl, so everything we've been through is absolutely new to me, but I'm learning really fast, and I think that's what's making her get uncomfortable with everything, she told me that she gave me the first oral sex so I would have that experience, but since I was really innocent she didn't imagine that I would like it that much, and also because she wasn't good at it anyway. Fact is, I loved it, it's not just because it was my first time and it was good, I really loved it, she was really good at it. I have asked her a couple times for more, and I have even done it for her a couple times, but she doesn't like it when I do it, why?! I think it's because she thinks that if I do it to her, then I'll expect the same back to me. Frankly, I'd like to get it back, but whenever I do it, I do it because I want to and want to please her. But it's gotten worse, it takes a lot of convincing from me so she'll allow me to give her oral pleasure. So how do I get her to give me oral pleasure if she won't allow me to please her in that part? I feel like it's really destroying my illusion with her, I feel like sooner or later it'll make me get bored of her. For me, vaginal sex isn't really everything, I'd really like to have a variety of pleasures besides vaginal sex, I mean, I like it, I won't deny it, but we've only been together 6 months and I already think I'll get bored of it sooner or later. Honestly, I don't think I'll last much with her if I don't get to please her with oral and her to please me orally. Help!
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reader, 738  +, writes (2 February 2010):
Hi loverboy91! i dont know if this will help but anyway for some reason alot of guys have the same problem as you i dont understand why your gf dosnt like oral sex but maybe she just dosnt have much of a sex drive or shes just scared or maybe she is cheating on you?
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reader, LoverBoy91 +, writes (21 January 2010):
LoverBoy91 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot, that should help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Well, I'm not sure you can really do anything more. If you've told her how you really feel about it and she's still not ok with it then it obviously shows she's not completely comfortable with it yet. Some people take longer to get comfortable with their partner. And if it's just sex to her then maybe she really isn't looking for a real relationship. Because if she's not willing to be intimate with you and do what YOU want along with what she wants, then she obviously doesn't care that much about it. At least that's what I'm seeing. She shouldn't just want to please herself, she should give you what you want also. It shouldn't be gross...it's natural. Foreplay is very important in a relationship and she needs to know this. If she's not willing to change then I suggest you break up with her. Before you cheat on her or go looking for more. Hope this helps.
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reader, LoverBoy91 +, writes (19 January 2010):
LoverBoy91 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe do have sex regularly, she loves it, and so do I, but I think I want different things for a change. That's why I said I think I'll get bored sooner or later because all we have is sex, and it's kinda always the same, so I'd like something different to keep the spice up.
I need help trying to convince her that it's not really as bad as she thinks oral sex is. I think she's grossed out of semen and natural lube that I produce. I try to talk to her and tell her that it's nothing gross. I've even tried telling her that how could she be grossed out of something that comes out of me, and it's not like its a body waste, like urine or poop, it's something that is product of the please I'm having because of her, of the desire I have for her. But this won't work much either. So I need something else I can tell her to convince her to lose that loathe of semen or lube or sticky stuff in general.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): I think she may be turned off with the whole being pressured into doing it. And maybe she's not completely comfortable with having sex with you yet. She may be scared and just wants you to comfort her. Try telling her that it's ok if she doesn't do it. Then she won't feel pressured and maybe this'll motivate her a little. If she feels that the only reason you're giving her oral is because you want it back, then she's gunna feel like you're using her. It might be a huge turn off to her. Talk to her and ask her why she doesn't like doing it. Tell her foreplay is an intimate and beautiful thing for a relationship and it shouldn't be something to be scared about. Just comfort her. Good luck!
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