| My girlfriend, who I love, has an anxiety disorder, and is ungoing therapy, it's affecting me, should I remain with her? |
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writes:hi, i'm in a long term relationship with my gf and things haven't been great for a while now. the spark has gone out of the relationship for a while and it just seemed to me that because she is a very anxious type of girl that things like our social life and our sex life were suffering as a result. on talking with my gf, she has admitted that she has a social anxiety disorder which has having a huge effect on her daily life, i had knew something was up but only on having a serious heart to heart that i now realise that this is causing her great stress and i am linking this completely with how our relationship is suffering as a result. she has heard of an operation which can help the problem which she suffers from but i'd be wary about her doing this as there's always a risk. she has agreed that she would try out alternative therapy as this apparently works for some people. i haven't been really happy for a good while now in the r'ship, she doesn't really socialise much with my friends as she feels she's too boring for them and doesn't offer anything to the group. i've been completely understanding with her and have told her i would support her in overcoming this. i really love my gf and sort of feel renewed hope for us now that i've realised what she is suffering from and that maybe the therapy will help. what i'm really worried about is that she won't overcome this problem and that because she wouldn't confide in this sort of thing with her parents i wouldn't want her to go for this operation without their consent and anyway i think it's psychological anyway from the facts she is giving me.basically i have spent so much time worrying about her and that feel that in certain social situations myself i can't fully relax as i feel her awkwardness rubbing off on me. to make matters worse i am extremely outgoing and know she sort of judges herself against me.there's one side of me that will support her through this and hope she comes out the right end of this and that our r'ship will prosper as a result but on the other hand i fear that she won't improve and that i'll spend forever having to look out for her to an extent that it's having an effect on my own happiness.what would people advise?
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