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anonymous
writes:Hi. I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 17. I've been together with my girlfriend for almost 1 and a half years and despite some ups and downs I think she's perfect for me. We currently live far away from each other so I can't check up on her in real life.She was always the kind of person who hated people getting drunk during parties. She said she'd leave me if I went to a bar because she was scared about me getting drunk and doing stupid things. However, recently, she's started going outside more with parties involving drinks. She doesn't let me go outside and drink on no circumstances because she thinks her friends are more reliable than mine, since I'm a guy, although to be honest I don't want to anyway. But I'm terrified of her getting drunk because I've heard countless stories about guys taking advantage of other girls, or her doing something really stupid, and it doesn't help that I can't accompany her.Recently, she's started changing. Even though I'm really scared and didn't want her to go, I let her go to a party 2 weeks ago (against my wishes because I didn't want to be possessive) and didn't drink at all even though she could. I thanked her and I was really glad that she didn't because I was scared shitless. I verified this on Skype and knew I could trust her. Today though, I'm scared she's not the girl I fell in love with anymore. She went to a party and drank 4 bottles of a drink and got completely wasted. When she came home and we were on Skype, she was laughing at me being mad at her and started insulting me incessantly because I'm selfish, telling me to go fuck myself and stuff just because I care about her. I don't even know if I can trust her anymore because she can't really control herself while she's drunk. What if she got raped? She tells me she didn't but she's changing and I don't know what to do.It's like she's a completely different person and I've asked her not to drink but she accuses me of being selfish and I don't know what to do because I really love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): talk to her. but also, drinking at your age is pretty normal. but the thing that is bugging you is that she's changed. so talk to her about it. but she may have grown up a little, and maybe you two just aren't growing together. maybe you'll catch up. that depends on what the future holds for you both. also, don't be too possessive and don't keep asking her if she's loyal or whatever. just don't check up on her that much.
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