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writes:Hi All, please helpThe other night me and g\f were having drunken sex when she suddenly laughed, joke about the noises i was making and then started mimicking the noises i obviously make during sex IE grunting etcWhen she did this i just went cold and felt really hurt and belittled. I was really angry but my g\f said she doesn't remember? whether she remembers or not is important but would anyone else find this belittling? Was i over sensitive or have a right to be raging? we haven't spoke since
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 You did say it was drunken sex right?
I'm sure she didnt really mean to hurt you; she was just being playful and teasing lightly. If anything, this just means you can mimic her right back!
Talk to your girlfriend. You're only going to be more pissed off if you let it just sit in between you two.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (14 June 2008):
 Oh by the way when he has reached climax.... He does a face like the Scream mask just like in the movie lol.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (14 June 2008):
My fella puts on a fake American accent when we get it together. Like... "Yeah baby you are soooo good". My fella mimmicks me when I make a noise, which I find very amusing. Come on take a chill pill and stop taking yourself too seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): No, you're right to be pissed-off with her - and how embarrassed you must be feeling. I can fully understand how you feel.
People have different levels of sensitivity and what makes one laugh can really hurt another.
The good thing is, she says she can't remember - she's probably lying about that and possibly shows she realises her mistake. Advice? Don't menion it again, move on from it and continue the relationship - she seems willing to.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (14 June 2008):
 After a few drinks, anybody can say or do things they don't mean, and don't realise they hurt.
Don't worry about it too much; but if you are really fed up about it just mention that you don't want her to do this again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): Oh don't be so silly!
I take the mick out of the noises my bf makes when we're having sex all the time, and he does the same.
Face it, both sex noises AND sex faces are funny. I'm sure she didn't actually think you'd get so unreasonably upset at the time, and you're taking it far more seriously than you should - if she'd taken the mick out of the size of your 'tackle', then I'd understand you getting a bit upset.
Don't ruin your relationship over this, it's really not worth it. Although I have to say, if you get this upset so as not to have spoken to her since over something so silly as your drunken girlfriend finding your sex noises funny, then I'm not sure that you're in a very strong relationship anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): hey,
i say cut her some slack if she was drunk then its probly something s he didnt mean...but if she does it sober then id probly feel kinda embaressed or pissed but its like when a little kid comes up to u and says something like look its santa it may hurt for a while but u know they dont mean 2 hurt u and u know that people love u 4 u no matter what u look like or if u like 2 grunt durin sex!! so this time relax because she was drunk meaning clueless!
good luck
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